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Bathroom Police

Posted by on May. 8, 2016 at 1:17 PM
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Some men need to remember that no one has appointed them the bathroom police.  

link to video: http://www.khou.com/news/local/texas/man-follows-woman-into-restroom-after-mistaking-her-for-a-man/164686854

FRISCO, Texas -- It was an unsettling bathroom counter that Jessica Rush will never forget.

Rush was inside a bathroom Thursday at Baylor Medical Center in Frisco when a man barged into the women’s bathroom because he thought she was a male.

“You didn’t look like a girl when I saw you enter. I thought you was a…,” the man told her with a heavy accent.

“A boy?” she asked him.

“Yes, I was kind of confused when I saw this,” the unidentified man. “That’s the only reason. Now that I see you are a woman. … You know it’s difficult. Of course, you dress like a man. You dress like a man.”

Rush recorded the encounter and posted it to her Facebook page, the latest episode in what’s quickly becoming a hot debate over who can use which bathroom.  

“I’m clearly a woman,” said Rush, who wears her hair in a platinum faux hawk. “I was just in basketball shorts and a t-shirt. Nothing out of the ordinary.”

Rush says the man came in with a woman that she later learned was his mother. She was about to go into a stall when he confronted her.  

“He scared me more than anything,” she said. “I was shocked. I didn’t even know what to do so that’s when I flipped on my video camera.”

She’d gone to the hospital that day after breaking a couple of her fingers when she fell.

“Regardless of it being a woman’s bathroom, why come in and then start attacking me personally?” said Rush, who manages a restaurant. “That’s scary to me as a five-foot-three, five-foot-four female.” 

Later in the lobby, she recorded another video while discussing with him why he had come into that bathroom. He says he was worried because he thought a man had gone into the bathroom that his mother was about to use. He wanted to make sure that his mother was going into the right bathroom. 

"The point is I was helping my mom. I was confused when I see someone entering the woman's bathroom looking like a man," he told her. 

Rush says it’s the not the first time her gender has been called into question. She says another time she went into the women’s locker room at a gym. 

“A lady came and tapped me on the back and said, ‘Excuse me, sir,” she said. “And as soon as I turned around, she said, ‘I’m sorry. sorry. I thought you were a boy.’’ 

Rush says the incidents just go to show that you can’t you can’t always make assumptions about someone’s gender by the way they look. 

“I do feel for the transgenders because this happened to me,” she said. “I can only imagine someone who is taking testosterone and growing facial hair and still having to go to the women’s bathroom.” 

“If I do go into the women’s bathroom, then I clearly identify as a woman whether I’m trans or not, which I’m not and I don’t plan to be,” Rush said. “I just think everybody just needs to kind of stay to themselves and don’t be the bathroom police.”

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pdxmum
by Gold Member on May. 8, 2016 at 1:35 PM
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I am convinced this will happen to me. I'm a six foot woman and have consistently been called sir when people barely look and only see height.

This has been on my mind a lot lately with the elevated and hateful rhetoric about trans folks.

1984. Halloween. College frat party. I dressed up as a hockey player. My hair was short, I did look like a dude. A very feminine, clean shaven dude, but a dude. I forgot I looked like a dude and started flirting with what I assume was a real dude. He grabbed my uniform, threatened to beat the shit out of me and threw me out the door.

Fucking men need to stop worrying about the size of their dicks.
MyMyOhMy
by Gold Member on May. 8, 2016 at 8:54 PM
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Might be time to check the pepper spray. ;)

Homophobes ... I can't really consider them men.

Quoting pdxmum: I am convinced this will happen to me. I'm a six foot woman and have consistently been called sir when people barely look and only see height. This has been on my mind a lot lately with the elevated and hateful rhetoric about trans folks. 1984. Halloween. College frat party. I dressed up as a hockey player. My hair was short, I did look like a dude. A very feminine, clean shaven dude, but a dude. I forgot I looked like a dude and started flirting with what I assume was a real dude. He grabbed my uniform, threatened to beat the shit out of me and threw me out the door. Fucking men need to stop worrying about the size of their dicks.


Bookwormy
by Ruby Member on May. 8, 2016 at 10:38 PM
I'm just waiting for my DW to get kicked out of women's rooms. She's a woman, but she gets called sir now and again. When our DD was born half the folks thought she was my husband and the other half thought she was my mom. She's all of 4 years older than me, lol.
Elkamelka
by Gold Member on May. 8, 2016 at 11:09 PM
I went to a World AIDS Day at my daughter's college several years ago. One of the entertainers sang a song about being a B O I!! She had been chased out of several bathrooms, and that was before all the scary hoopla going on now.

Quoting Bookwormy: I'm just waiting for my DW to get kicked out of women's rooms. She's a woman, but she gets called sir now and again. When our DD was born half the folks thought she was my husband and the other half thought she was my mom. She's all of 4 years older than me, lol.
Bookwormy
by Ruby Member on May. 8, 2016 at 11:23 PM
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Oy Vey...

Quoting Elkamelka: I went to a World AIDS Day at my daughter's college several years ago. One of the entertainers sang a song about being a B O I!! She had been chased out of several bathrooms, and that was before all the scary hoopla going on now.

Quoting Bookwormy: I'm just waiting for my DW to get kicked out of women's rooms. She's a woman, but she gets called sir now and again. When our DD was born half the folks thought she was my husband and the other half thought she was my mom. She's all of 4 years older than me, lol.
bluefirewolf
by Gold Member on May. 8, 2016 at 11:44 PM

and so it begins......

DissieDothe
by Member on May. 9, 2016 at 12:29 AM

We're the only country who have bathrooms labeled men's & women's. Also port-a-potties are not labeled.



AnotherKim
by Silver Member on May. 9, 2016 at 12:55 AM

Right? I have a friend who's 6 feet tall, and she deals with the same thing. Men can be such fucking assholes. God forbid a woman have short hair, or be really tall...

Quoting pdxmum: I am convinced this will happen to me. I'm a six foot woman and have consistently been called sir when people barely look and only see height. This has been on my mind a lot lately with the elevated and hateful rhetoric about trans folks. 1984. Halloween. College frat party. I dressed up as a hockey player. My hair was short, I did look like a dude. A very feminine, clean shaven dude, but a dude. I forgot I looked like a dude and started flirting with what I assume was a real dude. He grabbed my uniform, threatened to beat the shit out of me and threw me out the door. Fucking men need to stop worrying about the size of their dicks.


iwicked
by Member on May. 9, 2016 at 12:58 AM
I have seen many labeled Porta potties.

Quoting DissieDothe:

We're the only country who have bathrooms labeled men's & women's. Also port-a-potties are not labeled.

AllofFive19
by Silver Member on May. 9, 2016 at 3:06 AM
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Let me get this straight... a man barged into a woman's restroom because he thought a man barged into a woman's restroom. What gives HIM the right to barge into a woman's restroom if he doesn't want a man in there. He's a man... he was in there, therefore he is wrong. He can excuse it anyway he wants, but the fact remains if he doesn't want a man in there, he can't be in there either.

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