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7 Harsh Realities

Posted by on Nov. 11, 2016 at 1:24 AM
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7 Harsh Realities Of Life Millennials Need To Understand

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Submitted by The Libertarian Republic, via The Burning Platform blog,

Millennials.

They may not yet be the present, but they’re certainly the future. These young, uninitiated minds will someday soon become our politicians, doctors, scientists, chefs, television producers, fashion designers, manufacturers, and, one would hope, the new proponents of liberty. But are they ready for it?

Time after time, particularly on college campuses, millennials have proven to be little more than entitled, spoiled, anti-intellectual brats who place far too much emphasis on feelings and nowhere near enough emphasis on critical thinking. To the millennial, words are cause for the creation of safe spaces, alternative ideas must be stifled, and anything they perceive to be a microaggression is enough to send them spiraling into a state of mental distress.

It’s time millennials understood these 7 harsh realities of life so we don’t end up with a generation of gutless adult babies running the show.

1. Your Feelings Are Largely Irrelevant

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Seriously, nobody who has already graduated college cares about your feelings. That means that when you complain to your boss because your co-worker mis-gendered you, he’s probably not going to bend over backwards to bandage your wounds. Given feelings are entirely subjective in nature, it’s completely unreasonable to demand everyone tip-toe around you to prevent yours from being hurt. The reality is that people will offend you and hurt your feelings, and they won’t stop to mop up your tears because they shouldn’t have to. Learning to accept criticism, alternative viewpoints, and even outright insults will make you happier in the long run than routinely playing the victim card.

 

2. You Cannot Be Whatever You Want To Be

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This is a comforting lie parents have started telling their children to boost their morale in school. Unfortunately, millennials are now convinced it’s true, especially as society has now decided to push this narrative as well. The reality is if you’re 17 years old and still can’t figure out basic division, you’re not going to be a rocket scientist. If you’re overweight and unattractive, you’re not going to be the quarterback’s prom date. If you lack fine motor skills, you’re not going to be a heart surgeon. It’s okay to accept that you cannot be whatever you want to be. In fact, once you accept this, you’ll be able to focus on the things you can be — the things you really are talented at.

3. Gender Studies Is A Waste Of Money

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You heard me. While some millennials taking useless degrees will claim they’re beneficial for teaching or research positions, the reality is that they just put themselves several thousands dollars in debt to learn how to be a professional victim. While you’re struggling to make ends meet after graduation because nobody who pays more than minimum wage is interested in your qualifications and you’re drowning in student loan debt, be sure to check out the next harsh reality before you start complaining.

4. If You Live In America, You’re Already In The 1%

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That’s right. Even though you work at McDonald’s for minimum wage because you got a useless, outrageously expensive college degree, you’re still far better off than the vast majority of the planet. Don’t believe me? Fly to Uganda and check out the living conditions there. Fly to China, Saudi Arabia, North Korea, Iran, Russia, and even European countries like Ukraine and Greece, and you’ll quickly discover just how well-off you really are. While it may be cool these days to dump on capitalism, it’s the only reason you aren’t already worse off.

5. You Don’t Have A Right To It Just Because You Exist

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That includes healthcare, guaranteed income, and somewhere to live. Just because you’re here and breathing doesn’t mean society owes you anything. Like the billions of people who lived before you, working hard is a better guarantor of wealth and the ability to comfortably take care of yourself than begging society or the government to do it for you. Demanding healthcare be a right, for example, is equivalent to demanding government force the taxpayer to pay for it. While that may seem like a good idea in theory, it only leads to rationing of care when costs become unsustainable, which negatively impacts not just your health, but everyone else’s, too.

6. You DO Have The Right To Live As You Please But Not To Demand People Accept It

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By contrast, you do have the right to live however you please, so long as it’s within the confines of the law. If you want to cross-dress, smoke marijuana, drink lots of alcohol, have lots of sex, and, yes, even go to school for gender studies, then by all means, go for it. Government should not be allowed to legislate people’s behavior as long as it doesn’t infringe upon someone else’s rights, but that doesn’t mean society isn’t allowed to have an opinion. You don’t have the right to demand people keep their opinions about your lifestyle to themselves, especially if you’re open and public about it. I have as much of a right to comment on the way you live your life as you do to actually live it. Your feelings are not a protected right, but my speech is.

7. The Only Safe Space Is Your Home

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No matter where you go in life, someone will be there to offend you. Maybe it’s a joke you overheard on vacation, a spat at the office, or a difference of opinion with someone in line at the grocery store. Inevitably, someone will offend you and your values. If you cannot handle that without losing control of your emotions and reverting back to your “safe space” away from the harmful words of others, then you’re best to just stay put at home. Remember, though: if people in the outside world scare you, people on the internet will downright terrify you. It’s probably best to just accept these harsh realities of life and go out into the world prepared to confront them wherever they may be waiting.

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rona503
by New Member on Nov. 11, 2016 at 1:34 AM
You just told the truth in this post
Clairwil
by Ruby Member on Nov. 12, 2016 at 9:00 AM
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Some good points, but some that he hasn't gone into deeply enough...

Quoting Bonnie_:

Given feelings are entirely subjective in nature, it’s completely unreasonable to demand everyone tip-toe around you to prevent yours from being hurt. The reality is that people will offend you and hurt your feelings, and they won’t stop to mop up your tears because they shouldn’t have to.

If someone says "You are 6 foot tall", when you are 6 foot tall, and you take offense at that, that's on you, not on them.

If someone says "Your productivity was lower than everyone else's in the office last quarter" when that was so, again, you don't have any justification for taking offense.    If they say "You're a fucking useless so and so." then that is offensive, but maybe you deserve to be offended in that situation.   Your goofing off at work offends them.

If someone repeatedly says "You are 6 foot tall" when you are 5 foot tall.  Or, worse, keeps saying that you are "fucking useless" when actually your productivity is above average, then you don't deserve to be offended, but you know what?   Some people are offensive pricks and you still need to learn to work along side them.   If it gets too bad, complain to HR, or move jobs.

But there are some problems, just with words, that are not so easily resolved.

Suppose you live in a town with a systematic problem.   Suppose you are female and 90% of the local business owners let their employees openly get away with repeatedly harassing you because of your gender - something that's not under your control.    Or suppose you are black and 90% of the local business owners let their employees get away with continually aiming racist insults and jokes with you.   Sure, some people have a thick enough skin to do well under such circumstances.  But it isn't in society's best interests to let that situation continue - people will be more productive workers, contribute more to the country's GDP, if they are not forced into such a hostile workplace.

Obviously there's a grey area in between.   But it isn't a simple case of "Any time it is just words, the right response is to suck it up and not be a crybaby".

LGAll65
by on Nov. 12, 2016 at 9:53 AM
I hope we don't have to see that overdone , overused , cutesy term " safe space" too much longer . Its stale and its not cute .
Derp.
Debmomto2teens
by Platinum Member on Nov. 12, 2016 at 10:08 AM
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I think millenials rock. People are sounding really old and ignorant.
idunno1234
by Platinum Member on Nov. 12, 2016 at 10:15 AM
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I'm sick and tired of the generational beat down.  Most young adults I know are working their asses off, going to school and working, some of them full time for both.   People of my generation, when I was growing up and before didn't have to deal with such outrageous costs with such a limited and dismal job market, wages stagnant for virtually everyone....except those at the top.   And its much MUCH easier, for an infinite variety of reasons for some to rise to the top, reasons that go beyond pure work ethic.  It is not a level playing field.

Saying things like if you want health care, go out and earn the money to pay for it shows a moral, ethica,l critical thinking vacuum.  Working hard is certainly not a guarantee of wealth and health care costs are wildly exorbitant and unaffordable for the vast majority of Americans who are dealing with sucky shit, beyond financial ruin.  

There were some valid things said but frankly meaningless because there will always be people who react or feel differently than we do and like it or not, it is incredibly relevant.....feelings can be virtually magical, love can be described no other way and only has a positive affect on people both giving it and receiving, but feelings also are exactly what leads us to do the worst of what we do....hate,violence, murder.  How naive to dismiss how people feel about shit as irrevelant.



cgd5112
by Bronze Member on Nov. 12, 2016 at 10:29 AM
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I agree with some of the points in this post as well. And I agree with the point you  made. I don't agree with the you can't be whatever you want to be. You can be a racist, misogynist, xenophobe, con and  then ascend to the presidency. You can the all those awful things and people will turn the other way and still support and defend you. 

All sarcasm aside. There is nothing wrong with telling your children they can be whatever they want. There is nothing wrong with givng you child optimism and the support to dream big and achieve greatness regardless of SES. 

This list, while true on some points, still oversimplifies the anger of the young protesters and misses the mark ( deliberately or not) on the reasons why they are rejecting DT's ascension.  And just like the author said, feelings are not protected but free speech is. Well, so is the free speech and protest of the protesters and people voicing disgust with the election result. That they express it withemotion is no less speech than the dismissiv self righteous demeanor of DT supporters. 

Safe spaces are not about not being challenged intellectually or with other points of view. It is about open discourse without the fear of personal /phyical threat. It is about listening to the other side and actually thinkning about what was said before responding. This among other things is the role of colleges and universities. 

The author is basically saying  to suck it all up. He misses the mark on the fact that millenials are the youth of today. And like in yester years, it is the young because of their limited life experience dare to dream ig and have the potential to and DO achieve great things in life for their benefit and sometimes for the benefit of humanity. To quash it with such stupid simplistic rhetoric is to quash the American dream :

"lIfe, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.." 

from the inalienable rights in the Declaration of Independence.

How we each interpet these rights is our right to choose. 

Quoting Clairwil:

Some good points, but some that he hasn't gone into deeply enough...

Quoting Bonnie_:

Given feelings are entirely subjective in nature, it’s completely unreasonable to demand everyone tip-toe around you to prevent yours from being hurt. The reality is that people will offend you and hurt your feelings, and they won’t stop to mop up your tears because they shouldn’t have to.

If someone says "You are 6 foot tall", when you are 6 foot tall, and you take offense at that, that's on you, not on them.

If someone says "Your productivity was lower than everyone else's in the office last quarter" when that was so, again, you don't have any justification for taking offense.    If they say "You're a fucking useless so and so." then that is offensive, but maybe you deserve to be offended in that situation.   Your goofing off at work offends them.

If someone repeatedly says "You are 6 foot tall" when you are 5 foot tall.  Or, worse, keeps saying that you are "fucking useless" when actually your productivity is above average, then you don't deserve to be offended, but you know what?   Some people are offensive pricks and you still need to learn to work along side them.   If it gets too bad, complain to HR, or move jobs.

But there are some problems, just with words, that are not so easily resolved.

Suppose you live in a town with a systematic problem.   Suppose you are female and 90% of the local business owners let their employees openly get away with repeatedly harassing you because of your gender - something that's not under your control.    Or suppose you are black and 90% of the local business owners let their employees get away with continually aiming racist insults and jokes with you.   Sure, some people have a thick enough skin to do well under such circumstances.  But it isn't in society's best interests to let that situation continue - people will be more productive workers, contribute more to the country's GDP, if they are not forced into such a hostile workplace.

Obviously there's a grey area in between.   But it isn't a simple case of "Any time it is just words, the right response is to suck it up and not be a crybaby".


MrsHMS
by Silver Member on Nov. 12, 2016 at 10:52 AM
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Great list. One you should add, you don't have the right to other people's hard earned money. In every society there are the non producers, non workers and non contributors and in every society they are a burden and looked down on.
idunno1234
by Platinum Member on Nov. 12, 2016 at 11:42 AM
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Is that what you call the people who take out the office trash?  Change motel room sheets and clean toilets?  How about daycare workers?  Aides wiping the butt of someone's parent/handicapped child/those who are dependent on others for their care? How about people who are intellectually on the low side of things?  Or people in chronic pain?  Or those suffering from mental illness?  What about the elderly and infirm?  Are they a burden to be looked down on?

Quoting MrsHMS: Great list. One you should add, you don't have the right to other people's hard earned money. In every society there are the non producers, non workers and non contributors and in every society they are a burden and looked down on.


Sisteract
by Whoopie on Nov. 12, 2016 at 11:47 AM

And folks who believe such often talk about how religious they are.

Frightening what some people think, isn't it?

Quoting idunno1234:

Is that what you call the people who take out the office trash?  Change motel room sheets and clean toilets?  How about daycare workers?  Aides wiping the butt of someone's parent/handicapped child/those who are dependent on others for their care? How about people who are intellectually on the low side of things?  Or people in chronic pain?  Or those suffering from mental illness?  What about the elderly and infirm?  Are they a burden to be looked down on?

Quoting MrsHMS: Great list. One you should add, you don't have the right to other people's hard earned money. In every society there are the non producers, non workers and non contributors and in every society they are a burden and looked down on.



nb34
by Platinum Member on Nov. 12, 2016 at 11:55 AM
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Gender studies is more important today than ever before. I skimmed through this, but I won't waste my time reading garbage like this.

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