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You Can Be Anti-Trump Without Slut-Shaming Melania

Posted by on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:08 AM
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Older article, but a good reminder for those who apparently need reminding what misogyny is.

You Can Be Anti-Trump Without Slut-Shaming Melania

Liberal or conservative, misogyny is misogyny.

Melania Trump is the wife of GOP presidential nominee Donald Trump, mother of young Barron Trump, and our country’s potential next first lady. But before all of that, Melania Trump was a model ― and during her modeling career she posed in several nude photos.

One of those photos, taken in 1995 when she was just 25 years old, is plastered across the Sunday cover of the New York Post. 

The image, which features Mrs. Trump’s bare breasts censored with stars, is accompanied by the charming headline: THE OGLE OFFICE. 

Over the course of Donald Trump’s campaign for the presidency, Melania Trump’s past has consistently been used as ammunition against him, by liberals and conservatives alike. In March, a conservative anti-Trump Super PAC ran ads attempting to convince Mormons not to vote for him ― by trotting out nude photos Mrs. Trump took in 2000 for British GQ

The ad featured an image of Mrs. Trump lying nude on a bed, and read, “Meet Melania Trump, your next first lady. Or, you could support Ted Cruz...” 

But it’s not just Republicans who are guilty of this kind of rhetoric. People who would describe themselves as liberal have also taken shots at Melania’s modeling career. They’ve used her nude shots to dismiss her as a dumb trophy-wife, and to compare her to the “classy,” current FLOTUS, Michelle Obama:

Misogyny is misogyny, and it manifests itself on both sides, as does the hypocrisy. In response to the Ted Cruz attack ad on his wife, Donald Trump tweeted an image meant to ridicule the appearance of Mrs. Cruz as compared to the seemingly more beautiful Mrs. Trump. And responding to the New York Post’s sensationalized cover of Melania Trump this week, Trump advisor Jason Miller told CNN on Sunday: “There’s nothing to be embarrassed about. She’s a beautiful woman.”

Why is Melania Trump being discussed by the media, by both liberal and conservative anti-Trumpers, and by her husband himself as if she is an object? Why is it that her former career and her looks are being used to attack her husband, when his politics, his blatant racism, and his dangerous, fear-mongering rhetoric should really be all the material one needs to call him out? 

Of course, the sexist scrutiny that Mrs. Trump is getting should come as no surprise. Michelle Obama has undergone similar attacks over the last eight years. She’s been called, numerous times, an ape and a monkey. She’s been criticized for daring to show her bare arms in an official White House photos. She’s even had her looks compared to Melania Trump’s in a horrifyingly sexist and racist cartoon. (One wonders where Melania’s defenders ― the people praising her nude photos as beautiful and “nothing to be ashamed of” ― were when Michelle Obama was shamed for exposing her arms.)

What this speaks to is how the first lady (or potential first lady) is still viewed as an extension of her husband, rather than as an individual in her own right. Even though first ladies throughout history have done amazing things while in the White House, the Jackie O effect persists: We remain more obsessed with their clothes and their hair, than their passions and their projects. 

Defending Melania Trump from being slut-shamed and reduced to a “thing” rather than a person, doesn’t mean having to defend Donald Trump if you disagree deeply with his message. He himself, after all, seems to be pushing her body and her beauty as a selling-point.

Ultimately, the nude photos are irrelevant. They tell nothing about Melania Trump’s character or her ethics, and they certainly tell us nothing of Donald Trump’s.

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by KK on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:10 AM
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Yes, you certainly can be.  

by Lisa on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:13 AM
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Absolutely you can.

by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:16 AM

I kind of agree. I mean I've made it no secret that I highly dislike Trump, but I kind of feel sorry for Melania. She just seems kind of lost in her role of being First Lady. I've seen her potential to be a good First Lady, but it also feels like she's trying her best to step out of the lime light. To be totally fair though, we've had plenty of First Ladies do exactly that. We don't record much of what they've done into history, but that doesn't mean they were bad people. They simply were not as active. 

by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:24 AM
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I agree 100%. I really don't have any issues with Melania, I have not and will not ever slut shame her. To do so is just ridiculous. She doesn't deserve it.
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:26 AM

Yes, you can and it's a shame some women are so nasty toward her. 

by Ronita on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:26 AM
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I agree 100%. You can even have a legitimate criticism of Melania without engaging in misogyny or slut shaming.
by Bronze Member on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:28 AM
Eh. They're trashy. Trashy people can be trashy but they can't cry when called out on it. It's simple.
by Lois Lane on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:28 AM
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She's married to him. I feel sorry for her. I feel sorry for Barron. I don't mock either of them. I have no idea what living with someone like Trump would be like. And I am never a fan of slut shaming anyone, especially another woman. As women, we need to support and uplift one another, not tear each other down. That does nothing to advance our cause to be treated fair and equally in this country when we're attacking ourselves from inside. 

by Gold Member on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:29 AM
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For sure. I think the fact that she joined Donald in being a birther says more about her character and ethics than some nude pictures while she was modelling.
by KK on Sep. 12, 2017 at 11:30 AM
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Liberals who lower themselves to slut shaming, calling her a "whore" and even demean her for her ethnicity lose credibility when they argue against racism and misogyny.   

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