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Calif. Lady Moves to Red State, Suddenly Sends Unexpected Message to Lib Friends Back Home

Posted by on Sep. 20, 2017 at 2:14 PM
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Flyover country. Bible belt. Middle America. Coastal elites in liberal cities have all sorts of terms for “red states,” but they all seem to convey one message: Conservative areas of the country are somehow backward and should be avoided.

That’s the impression one California writer had about America’s heartland. Leah Singer never imagined that she would end up in Trump Country… but when she moved to Indiana not long ago, her entire perception changed.

In an editorial piece published last weekend in the Indianapolis Star, the author sent a clear message to liberal friends back in California and throughout the country: You might be wrong about “red states.”

“I used to say I’d never move to a red state. And then I did. And it’s changed my life for the better,” Singer admitted.

As a “California girl,” the writer explained that the left-leaning west coast sees itself as a bastion of “diversity,” but Singer hinted that it was less of a paradise for anybody who didn’t parrot the liberal talking points.

“I was raised in California, where we like to believe diversity is applauded and opportunities abound,” she explained. “In many ways, California’s blue state bubble can be a very safe place to live if you subscribe to the popular liberal politics.”

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“Over and over, I was questioned about why I would ever leave the Golden State for a ‘flyover’ red state. This phrase alone troubled me, and the implied perception that one flies over the Midwest just to get to their East or West coast home,” she stated.

Like sheltered people naively asking about a faraway land they’ve only vaguely heard about, the writer’s west coast friends had a lot of curiosity about how things were in America’s heartland.

“As I settled into life in the Midwest, I heard the same assumptive questions: ‘Did everyone you know vote for Donald Trump?’ ‘Are there African-American, Jewish, Asian, LGBTQ people in Indiana?’ ‘Do people make fun of you for listening to National Public Radio?'” Singer recalled.

The coastal transplant quickly realized that her past impressions of conservative America were nowhere near the reality.

“As I got to know my new Midwest home, I realize how living in a bubble and subscribing to the Middle America stereotypes is truly damaging to this country,” she explained.

“Never does one ask how the Indiana public schools provide many opportunities that have been cut from California’s public schools because of one budget crisis after another,” Singer continued.

“Never does one ask about the low cost of living that is allowing us to pay off the mountain of debt we accrued in California. And never does one ask about my fellow community members, who are running successful businesses, enriching the city’s arts and making a difference for the local environment.”

She noticed something that “enlightened” coastal liberals often ignore: Places such as California may not be as truly diverse as they pretend to be.

“Southern California is diverse racially and religiously; it really is not with respect to class or working poor,” the writer revealed.

“This is especially the case in San Diego County, where it’s becoming more difficult for middle-class families to own a home or afford rent, with 41% of homeowners and 57% of renters spending 30% or more of income on housing, all while incomes stay stagnant, according to the San Diego Regional Chamber of Commerce.”

In simple terms, many places in liberal enclaves have become so expensive to live that economic diversity is a thing of the past. It’s a bit like pretending that a gated community where everyone is a doctor or lawyer and drives a BMW is “diverse” — different racial boxes may be checked but it’s all a bit boring.

In the end, Singer’s positive experience with the midwest helped her realize that many coastal elites purposely bury their heads in the sand when it comes to real diversity within the United States.

“(H)ow many of these people travel within their own country to get to know the ‘other?’ Why travel the globe, but not make an effort to get to know your Midwest neighbor?” the author asked.

“Living in Indiana, I now have an understanding of America that I did not before. I wish more people living outside the middle took the time to get to know the others living a few states away. I did, and I am a better person because of it,” she concluded.

She may not completely realize it, but Singer has stumbled upon an important fact. Liberal obsession with diversity often shuns true multiculturalism — a variety of opinions, thoughts and political stances — and instead focuses on the “feel good” categorization of irrelevant traits like skin color.

In many of the most important ways, conservative areas of the country are advancing while liberal neighborhoods face major problems.

Thankfully, people like Singer are having their eyes opened once they actually escape their bubble… and they’re realizing what conservatives have known for decades: Small town America might be on to something after all.




https://conservativetribune.com/calif-lady-moves-to-red-state/?utm_source=Email&utm_medium=conservativebyte&utm_campaign=dailyam&utm_content=libertyalliance

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billsfan1104
by Ruby Member on Sep. 20, 2017 at 2:19 PM

Interesting. 

Kwitcherbetchen
by Silver Member on Sep. 20, 2017 at 2:54 PM
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To each their own. I prefer living in the diverse midwest.
Mom2Just1
by Platinum Member on Sep. 20, 2017 at 3:31 PM
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I live in WV and over 80% voted trump. This state is backwards and not very diverse. You don’t mention you’re liberal without getting mocked. We are 48 for education, dead last for health, etc.
billsfan1104
by Ruby Member on Sep. 20, 2017 at 3:47 PM
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So what are you doing to help??

Quoting Mom2Just1: I live in WV and over 80% voted trump. This state is backwards and not very diverse. You don’t mention you’re liberal without getting mocked. We are 48 for education, dead last for health, etc.


romalove
by Roma on Sep. 20, 2017 at 3:48 PM
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The other day on the radio (101.5 is NJ talk radio) there was a discussion about those moving out of state. NJ has very high taxes and we are losing population to mostly the South. Anyway, someone called in and said they had moved to a town outside Myrtle Beach. They stayed 5 years and returned to NJ.

The reason they came back, despite beautiful area and beautiful weather, was because they were always made to feel an excluded outsider. Their experience was that if you weren't from there to begin with, you would never be part of the community "for real".

Now that may or may not be true in general, but it was true for her. This is anecdotal evidence, just like the OPs story in the article. I know at least two people in the Midwest (one in Iowa and one in Oklahoma) who will tell you the opposite of what the lady in the article says.

Everyone on the coasts aren't "coastal elites" and everyone in the middle aren't backwards rubes.
zandhmom2
by Bronze Member on Sep. 20, 2017 at 3:48 PM

Why do you stay there?

Quoting Mom2Just1: I live in WV and over 80% voted trump. This state is backwards and not very diverse. You don’t mention you’re liberal without getting mocked. We are 48 for education, dead last for health, etc.


Mom2Just1
by Platinum Member on Sep. 20, 2017 at 4:41 PM
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Why? Because my Mil has MS.  She needs our help and eventually she will need full time help.  We also have her only grand children.  Whatever years she has left I want her to spend it with her grand children.  I am very fortunate my husband makes really good money and we found some great schools for our children.

Quoting zandhmom2:

Why do you stay there?

Quoting Mom2Just1: I live in WV and over 80% voted trump. This state is backwards and not very diverse. You don’t mention you’re liberal without getting mocked. We are 48 for education, dead last for health, etc.


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Mom2Just1
by Platinum Member on Sep. 20, 2017 at 4:43 PM
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I am active in the community.  I volunteer at my children's schools, I do programs through the libraries, I also vote for candidates who want change for my state,etc.  What kind of question is that anyways?

Quoting billsfan1104:

So what are you doing to help??

Quoting Mom2Just1: I live in WV and over 80% voted trump. This state is backwards and not very diverse. You don’t mention you’re liberal without getting mocked. We are 48 for education, dead last for health, etc.


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justinnaimee
by Bronze Member on Sep. 20, 2017 at 4:52 PM
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In my experience that is a small town trait. I've lived in small towns and cities in 3 states. Every small town was exactly as you described. Outsiders don't fit in because their grandpa and your grandpa didn't know each other from conception.

Quoting romalove: The other day on the radio (101.5 is NJ talk radio) there was a discussion about those moving out of state. NJ has very high taxes and we are losing population to mostly the South. Anyway, someone called in and said they had moved to a town outside Myrtle Beach. They stayed 5 years and returned to NJ.

The reason they came back, despite beautiful area and beautiful weather, was because they were always made to feel an excluded outsider. Their experience was that if you weren't from there to begin with, you would never be part of the community "for real".

Now that may or may not be true in general, but it was true for her. This is anecdotal evidence, just like the OPs story in the article. I know at least two people in the Midwest (one in Iowa and one in Oklahoma) who will tell you the opposite of what the lady in the article says.

Everyone on the coasts aren't "coastal elites" and everyone in the middle aren't backwards rubes.
-Celestial-
by Pepperlynn on Sep. 20, 2017 at 4:56 PM
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I could say the same about the US in general. As a navy brat I have lived all over the country.

It wasn't until I met DH who is Canadian and moved up there for 3 yrs.

Oh my god that place is ahmazzzing.
The people are great, the benefits afforded to you is borderline perfect. They have REAL freedoms.

The US is literally Canadas asshole.

We moved back here to take care of my ailing parents. But go up there every other year for vacation.
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