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Don't call us snowflakes - it damages our mental health, say young people

Posted by on Dec. 7, 2017 at 6:57 PM
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Being called a "snowflake" is damaging to mental health, young people say.  Figures show that the majority of young people think the term is unfair - and even more think it could have a negative effect of its own. 

The "snowflake generation" is a disparaging term now commonly used to refer to young people, who are perceived to be over-sensitive and intolerant of disagreement.

But research by insurance firm Aviva found that 72 per cent of 16-24 year-olds think the term is unfairly applied, while 74 per cent think it could have a negative effect on young people's mental health. 

The figures also show that young people are more likely to have experienced stress, anxiety and depression in the last year. 

Almost half of adults between 16 and 24 said they had experienced stress or anxiety, compared to just over a third of all UK adults.

Young adults were also more likely to be uncomfortable talking about a mental health problem, with one in three saying this compared to 27 per cent of all adults. 

13 per cent also said they were experiencing a problem but had not sought help, compared to seven per cent of all adults. 

The firm's medical expert, Dr Doug Wright, said the term could cause problems. “Our findings suggest that young adults are more likely to be experiencing mental health problems, so using a phrase which criticises this age group could add to this issue. 

"Any term used disparagingly to a segment of the population is inherently negative.

Brad Pitt in Fight Club, which is where the term is thought to have originated
Brad Pitt in Fight Club, which is where the term is thought to have originated CREDIT: 20TH CENTURY FOX

“While young adults in particular appear to take offence to the ‘snowflake’ label, the majority of adults agree that the term is unfair and unhelpful, so it’s important that people consider how such labels are used, and the cumulative effect they could have on their recipients," he said. 

The phrase, which originated in America, has particularly come to refer to universities and students who use "trigger warnings" to alert readers or listeners to potentially distressing material, and "safe spaces", which are meant to be free of certain opinions or ideas. 

It is also used to imply that young people are less resilient than older generations and quicker to take offence. 

It is thought to originate with US author Chuck Palahniuk's 1996 book Fight Club, which contains the line "You are not special. You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake". 

In an interview earlier this year he took credit for the term, adding: "My friends who teach in high school tell me that their students are very easily offended."

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tiafez
by Bronze Member on Dec. 7, 2017 at 7:08 PM
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meh. I'm a snowflake, it's kind of nice. 

PPCLC
by Lisa on Dec. 7, 2017 at 7:52 PM
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Whininess and "snowflake" type of behavior comes in ALL ages.

I will say it would be nice if a new term of derogatory rudeness could be adopted as "snowflake" is getting a bit boring.

atlmom2
by Gold Member on Dec. 7, 2017 at 8:16 PM
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WTF. I am so sick of someone that can't deal with life. Each day we get more wimps in the USA. I cannot believe the anxiety over nothing these days.
smalltowngal
by Platinum Member on Dec. 7, 2017 at 8:28 PM
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I tune out whoever is talking when I hear the term snowflake. I often find the rain using it is also the biggest whiner.

Quoting PPCLC:

Whininess and "snowflake" type of behavior comes in ALL ages.

I will say it would be nice if a new term of derogatory rudeness could be adopted as "snowflake" is getting a bit boring.

GrayDuck41
by Linda on Dec. 7, 2017 at 8:35 PM
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It is a fad and a sign of a lazy mind to keep using the same dumb insults such as “ “snowflake “.
Really annoying z
PPCLC
by Lisa on Dec. 7, 2017 at 8:41 PM
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I just feel like asking them if they've simply ran out of clever words to use or are they joining the bandwagon?

It's like a catch-all. Where too often, the ones who use it are indeed, whining far more than perhaps they realize but have ran out of something to say/write.

Quoting smalltowngal: I tune out whoever is talking when I hear the term snowflake. I often find the rain using it is also the biggest whiner.
Quoting PPCLC:

Whininess and "snowflake" type of behavior comes in ALL ages.

I will say it would be nice if a new term of derogatory rudeness could be adopted as "snowflake" is getting a bit boring.


rockymtngirl
by Bronze Member on Dec. 7, 2017 at 8:43 PM
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I feel that way about the term "racist".



Debmomto2teens
by Platinum Member on Dec. 7, 2017 at 9:00 PM
The college students I work with get a kick out of people using the term snowflake. They think it is kind of sad. When all else fails and you’ve got nothing, call someone a snowflake.
billsfan1104
by on Dec. 7, 2017 at 9:04 PM
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Just like when you and other liberals scream “racist”, “ignorant”, “gun lovers” etc etc.
really annoying


Quoting GrayDuck41: It is a fad and a sign of a lazy mind to keep using the same dumb insults such as “ “snowflake “.
Really annoying z
msb64
by Platinum Member on Dec. 7, 2017 at 9:17 PM
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I think we sometimes put way too much social cognition on our young adults (not that this is new for the current adult/older adult generation).  We expect them to be more socially/racially/religiously aware than their parents.  We expect them to be more cognizant of the marketable skills and job market than their parent.  We expect them to be more forthcoming of their feelings AND understanding of their peers feelings than their parents.  As parents of young adults we are expected to raise them so that they are socially aware, racially sensitive, in tune with their feelings, non-agreesive or combative, fiscally aware while being philothronpic, aware of sexual boundaries and basically not be a bitch or a dick. 

IMO, looking at the direction that we seem to be going as a country, young adults are rocking it.  Calling them "snowflakes" just diminishes the direction that they are sending us as a country and their role in the country as a whole.  I don't understand condeming younger generations and really don't understand why people do.  I guess that many of these people don't have amazing young adults in their lives.

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