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* Edited OP* Is A Woman Who Has Had Sex "Used"? Is Saying This Slut Shaming?

Posted by on Dec. 12, 2017 at 8:48 AM
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*edited to add a question*

What is your opinion about men (or women) who say or insinuate that  a woman would "do anything" to get what they want and that they are "used"

What if it's used as a public accusation about a co worker or subordinate?

Is this a form of slut shaming?


Nasty Woman Power


by on Dec. 12, 2017 at 8:48 AM
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NWP
by guerrilla girl on Dec. 12, 2017 at 8:50 AM

Lightweight Senator Kirsten Gillibrand, a total flunky for Chuck Schumer and someone who would come to my office “begging” for campaign contributions not so long ago (and would do anything for them), is now in the ring fighting against Trump. Very disloyal to Bill & Crooked-USED!

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turtle68
by Mahinaarangi on Dec. 12, 2017 at 9:00 AM
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someone who sleeps with someone to gain something and a woman who has had sex and is now used goods?

To the first....if both parties are getting what they want, couldnt care less...well done.

To the second...Any man or woman who thinks this way about another human being is just a wanker and not worthy of a second thought.

jessilin0113
by Ruby Member on Dec. 12, 2017 at 9:03 AM
Pretty much this. NWP, I'm on board with your opinions about purity culture, i completely agree that it it's a dangerous message to sell women and girls.

Quoting turtle68:

someone who sleeps with someone to gain something and a woman who has had sex and is now used goods?

To the first....if both parties are getting what they want, couldnt care less...well done.

To the second...Any man or woman who thinks this way about another human being is just a wanker and not worthy of a second thought.

Woodbabe
by Woodie on Dec. 12, 2017 at 9:05 AM

And the old double standard:  If a man uses sex to get what he wants, is HE now used?

PinkButterfly66
by Platinum Member on Dec. 12, 2017 at 9:14 AM

My opinion of anyone who makes statements like that is not very high.  Anyone who says that is a judgemental ass with a huge chip on their shoulder and probably more than a little jealous.


NWP
by guerrilla girl on Dec. 12, 2017 at 9:14 AM

What if it's used as a public accusation about a co worker or subordinate?

Quoting jessilin0113: Pretty much this. NWP, I'm on board with your opinions about purity culture, i completely agree that it it's a dangerous message to sell women and girls.
Quoting turtle68:

someone who sleeps with someone to gain something and a woman who has had sex and is now used goods?

To the first....if both parties are getting what they want, couldnt care less...well done.

To the second...Any man or woman who thinks this way about another human being is just a wanker and not worthy of a second thought.


Nasty Woman Power


HoneyedMacabre
by Member on Dec. 12, 2017 at 9:15 AM

I think they are two different things.  A woman who would "do anything" to get what she wants is either a manipulative bitch who doesn't care about hurting other people or is so insecure she will sell herself short and think she has to do something else other than work hard to get ahead.

I don't see what either of those things have to do with being used goods.    I don't subscribe to the concept of used goods.  I don't care how many people a woman has sex with, she is no more used than a man in the same position would be.  As long as she is being safe, and not screwing married men or something, I simply don't care.

NWP
by guerrilla girl on Dec. 12, 2017 at 9:15 AM

What if it's used as a public accusation about a co worker or subordinate?

Quoting turtle68:

someone who sleeps with someone to gain something and a woman who has had sex and is now used goods?

To the first....if both parties are getting what they want, couldnt care less...well done.

To the second...Any man or woman who thinks this way about another human being is just a wanker and not worthy of a second thought.


Nasty Woman Power


Clairwil
by Ruby Member on Dec. 12, 2017 at 9:22 AM
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turtle68
by Mahinaarangi on Dec. 12, 2017 at 9:23 AM

what the boss stands up and says...hey Lucy has been f*cking Ben and is now used goods?  Or Wilma doesnt like Lucy and tells the rest of the typing pool that she is well used goods?

Had that happen to me both scenario's :-)...although used goods would of been nice words used, instead of what was actually used.

Something tells me that Im probably not the best person to answer this...my answer is probably an exception and not a rule.

Quoting NWP:

What if it's used as a public accusation about a co worker or subordinate?

Quoting turtle68:

someone who sleeps with someone to gain something and a woman who has had sex and is now used goods?

To the first....if both parties are getting what they want, couldnt care less...well done.

To the second...Any man or woman who thinks this way about another human being is just a wanker and not worthy of a second thought.


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