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What Do ALL the Mass Shooters Have in Common? No Father in the Home

Posted by on Feb. 19, 2018 at 9:26 AM
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What Do ALL the Mass Shooters Have in Common? No Father in the Home

written by Jeanine Martin February 14, 2018

UPDATE: The article below I wrote over two years ago.  Yesterday it happened again, another mass shooting, this time at a high school in Florida. Our thoughts and prayers go out to families and friends of those 17 students who lost their lives. Such a terrible, senseless, tragedy. The very disturbed shooter Nikolas Cruz had been expelled from the school and it was well known that he had a fascination with knives and guns.

Nikolas and his biological brother were adopted by an older couple when Nikolas was an infant.  His mother, Lynda Marie Cruz, was 49 years old and his father, Roger Paul Cruz, was 62.  Roger died in 2004, when Nikolas was only 4 or 5.  Nikolas’s mother died just a few months ago.  Like so many of the mass shooters, young Nikolas grew up without a father in the home and with a fascination for guns.

 

Earlier post published October 2, 2015

The one common thread among all the recent mass shooters is they are children of single of mothers.  These young men had no male role models in their homes.  For 50 years, our society has encouraged women to be single mothers despite all the research proving it is detrimental to a child to be born into a home without a father.  Children born to single mothers are twice as likely to become delinquent. 

Children of single mothers are more likely to be in special education classes in school, more likely to drop out of school, more likely to experiment with drugs and alcohol at an early age, and more likely to become delinquent and to be incarcerated.  There are no men on death row from intact families.  Children of single mothers are more likely to witness domestic violence in their homes and more likely to repeat the pattern of domestic violence. Children born to a married couple are more likely to attend college, less likely to be abused, and more likely to grow up mentally and physically healthier.  A child born to a single mother has close to a 40% chance of growing up in poverty while a child born to a married couple has less than 4% chance of growing up in poverty. Children of single mothers are 14 times more likely to suffer abuse and if the mother lives with a man who is not the father of the child, the chances of abuse increase to 33 times that of a married couple. Worse, the children of single parents are more likely to grow up and repeat the pattern, a pattern that is detrimental to children.  Despite what the liberals have told us, children need fathers in their lives and in their homes.

If we look at the recent spate of mass shooters, they all grew up in single family homes.  (Cho at Virginia Tech may have been the exception although he seemed to be missing guidance from either of his parents. They did not seem to have been aware of his problems which began in middle school.)

Our society could cure a lot of ills by not encouraging women to be single mothers.  These women should put their children first and not become mothers if they aren’t in a stable, married, relationship.  It’s simply not fair to children.  From the National Review, 

Harvard sociologist Robert Sampson has written that “Family structure is one of the strongest, if not the strongest, predictor of variations in urban violence across cities in the United States.”

His views are echoed by the eminent criminologists Michael Gottfredson and Travis Hirschi, who have written that “such family measures as the percentage of the population divorced, the percentage of households headed by women, and the percentage of unattached individuals in the community are among the most powerful predictors of crime rates.”

When will our society stop pretending that children raised by single mothers turn out ‘just as good’ as those raised by a married couple? They don’t. These children suffer every step of their lives and so does our society. Our jails are packed with men and women from homes without a father.  We all pay the price, but these children pay the greatest price.

One more liberal social experiment, single mothers, that has harmed children.  When will we stop supporting liberal social experiments that ALWAYS harm children?  When will we put the needs of our most vulnerable, infants and children, ahead of the wants of adult women? Which is more important to our future as a society?  The answers are obvious.

UPDATE: Much more on this subject in this excellent article by our friends over at Bearing Drift,  The article includes these statistics,

63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes
80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes
75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes
85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes

The article is worth a read.

Another good article on this subject at thefederalist.com, and one at TheBlaze.com .

Update:  The Las Vegas shooter also grew up without a father at home because his father was in jail or running from the law for most of his life. More on the Stephen Paddock’s background here. 


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elizabooks
by Member on Feb. 19, 2018 at 9:37 AM
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I read all of that and I have a few questions...
So....if a mother has an abusive spouse would her leaving be better or worse for the children?
If a mother's spouse dies her kids are doomed if she remarries or not?
If a woman ends up being a single mother (for whatever reason) and needs to work, her children are at risk.
So what is the answer? Fathers should be locked in the house so as to avoid dieing early to raise the kids while the mother works?
Better yet...multiple marriages. Women should have the option of marring up to 3 males at once thus covering any chance of male death before the children are adults.
Billiejeens
by Ruby Member on Feb. 19, 2018 at 9:46 AM
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While single mothers (and fathers) are an inevitable part of life, 

I believe that the authors point was that it is not the optimal position to be in.

This line stood out to me -

For 50 years, our society has encouraged women to be single mothers despite all the research proving it is detrimental to a child to be born into a home without a father.  


Quoting elizabooks: I read all of that and I have a few questions... So....if a mother has an abusive spouse would her leaving be better or worse for the children? If a mother's spouse dies her kids are doomed if she remarries or not? If a woman ends up being a single mother (for whatever reason) and needs to work, her children are at risk. So what is the answer? Fathers should be locked in the house so as to avoid dieing early to raise the kids while the mother works? Better yet...multiple marriages. Women should have the option of marring up to 3 males at once thus covering any chance of male death before the children are adults.


SkippyDo
by on Feb. 19, 2018 at 9:50 AM
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For me, the moral of the story is to be very selective when it comes to procreation.

Kalea007
by Bronze Member on Feb. 19, 2018 at 9:58 AM

I agree....however I really didn't think it was that long (50 years) It's only getting worse now a days....

Quoting Billiejeens:

While single mothers (and fathers) are an inevitable part of life, 

I believe that the authors point was that it is not the optimal position to be in.

This line stood out to me -

For 50 years, our society has encouraged women to be single mothers despite all the research proving it is detrimental to a child to be born into a home without a father.  

Quoting elizabooks: I read all of that and I have a few questions... So....if a mother has an abusive spouse would her leaving be better or worse for the children? If a mother's spouse dies her kids are doomed if she remarries or not? If a woman ends up being a single mother (for whatever reason) and needs to work, her children are at risk. So what is the answer? Fathers should be locked in the house so as to avoid dieing early to raise the kids while the mother works? Better yet...multiple marriages. Women should have the option of marring up to 3 males at once thus covering any chance of male death before the children are adults.



Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us...Hebrews 12:1

Billiejeens
by Ruby Member on Feb. 19, 2018 at 10:00 AM
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Only have children with people that you are in love with and (at least at that time) wish to spend your life with.

* Previously I did not include that - but we are starting from such a low point right now, even that is a huge improvement.

Quoting SkippyDo:

For me, the moral of the story is to be very selective when it comes to procreation.


CraziestTexan39
by Silver Member on Feb. 19, 2018 at 10:02 AM
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So does this not include the killer in Last Vegas? Since he was already well past the ages of school shooters? And what about the Pulse Nightclub killer? Mass Shooter. Honestly it is just fucked up to try and pinpoint ONE thing to link these killers and say "this is the underlying reason". Each and everyone of these mass shooters were filled with hate and violence and CHOSE to take it out on the world. They are murderers. That's what all of them are. That's ALL they are. Yes one gets labeled a "terrorist" the other is labeled as "mentally disturbed" with no real motive. None of them have a real motive. Aside from the drive to kill and terrorize people.
Sundance8
by Silver Member on Feb. 19, 2018 at 10:02 AM
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Okay, so let’s gather any and all excuses but the easy availability of guns.

I’ve seen
Anti-depressants
Violent video games
Violent movies
Poor mental healthcare
Now single mother households

But let’s not dare talk about the elephant in the room. And the GOP now controls two branches of government. What is their excuse for not addressing any of the above?
WilyMommy
by Missbod on Feb. 19, 2018 at 10:04 AM
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This is an epidemic really. Lots of troubled male youth grew up or are growing up without a father.

GrayDuck41
by on Feb. 19, 2018 at 10:08 AM
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It seems rather prejudiced and mean to blame single mothers.
But , look who posted the article.🙄
WilyMommy
by Missbod on Feb. 19, 2018 at 10:09 AM
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This article is important for everyone to read, though I disagree with the author blaming liberals. Personally I’ve never heard of the “liberal social experiment” of single motherhood, but regardless, placing the blame on one side does us no favors. We need to be uniting, not encouraging more divide.

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