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Hot Topic (2/12) - Co-Sleeping - Do you let your kids sleep in your bed? Is it safe?

Posted by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 7:06 AM
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Until a legitimate survey is done to determine how many babies sleep with their parents, and this is factored into the rate of SIDS in a bed versus a crib, it is unwarranted to state that sleeping in a crib is safer than a bed.

If the incidence of SIDS is dramatically higher in crib versus a parent's bed, and because the cases of accidental smothering and entrapment are only 1.5% of the total SIDS cases, then sleeping with a baby in your bed would be far safer than putting baby in a crib.

The answer is not to tell parents they shouldn't sleep with their baby, but rather to educate them on how to sleep with their infants safely.

A conflict of interest? Who is behind this new national campaign to warn parents not to sleep with their babies? In addition to the USCPSC, the Juvenile Products Manufacturers Association (JPMA) is co-sponsoring this campaign. The JPMA? An association of crib manufacturers. This is a huge conflict of interest. Actually, this campaign is exactly in the interest of the JPMA.

What does the research say? The September/October 2002 issue of Mothering Magazine presents research done throughout the whole world on the issue of safe sleep. Numerous studies are presented by experts of excellent reputation. And what is the magazine's conclusion based on all this research? That not only is sleeping with your baby safe, but it is actually much safer than having your baby sleep in a crib. Research shows that infants who sleep in a crib are twice as likely to suffer a sleep related fatality (including SIDS) than infants who sleep in bed with their parents.

Education on safe sleep. I do support the USCPSC's efforts to research sleep safety and to decrease the incidence of SIDS, but I feel they should go about it differently. Instead of launching a national campaign to discourage parents from sleeping with their infants, the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission should educate parents on how to sleep safely with their infants if they choose to do so.

Here are some ways to educate parents on how to sleep safely with their baby:

 

  • Use an Arm's Reach® Co-Sleeper® Bassinet. An alternative to sleeping with baby in your bed is the Arm's Reach® Co-Sleeper®. This crib-like bed fits safely and snuggly adjacent to parent's bed. The co-sleeper® arrangement gives parents and baby their own separate sleeping spaces yet, keeps baby within arm's reach for easy nighttime care. To learn more about the Arm's Reach® Co-Sleeper® Bassinet visit www.armsreach.com.

     

  • Take precautions to prevent baby from rolling out of bed, even though it is unlikely when baby is sleeping next to mother. Like heat-seeking missiles, babies automatically gravitate toward a warm body. Yet, to be safe, place baby between mother and a guardrail or push the mattress flush against the wall and position baby between mother and the wall. Guardrails enclosed with plastic mesh are safer than those with slats, which can entrap baby's limbs or head. Be sure the guardrail is flush against the mattress so there is no crevice that baby could sink into.

     

  • Place baby adjacent to mother, rather than between mother and father. Mothers we have interviewed on the subject of sharing sleep feel they are so physically and mentally aware of their baby's presence even while sleeping, that it's extremely unlikely they would roll over onto their baby. Some fathers, on the other hand, may not enjoy the same sensitivity of baby's presence while asleep; so it is possible they might roll over on or throw out an arm onto baby. After a few months of sleep-sharing, most dads seem to develop a keen awareness of their baby's presence.

     

  • Place baby to sleep on his back.

     

  • Use a large bed, preferably a queen-size or king-size. A king-size bed may wind up being your most useful piece of "baby furniture." If you only have a cozy double bed, use the money that you would ordinarily spend on a fancy crib and other less necessary baby furniture and treat yourselves to a safe and comfortable king-size bed.

     

  • Some parents and babies sleep better if baby is still in touching and hearing distance, but not in the same bed. For them, a bedside co-sleeper is a safe option.

     

Here are some things to avoid:

 

  • Do not sleep with your baby if:

     

    1. You are under the influence of any drug (such as alcohol or tranquilizing medications) that diminishes your sensitivity to your baby's presence. If you are drunk or drugged, these chemicals lessen your arousability from sleep.

       

    2. You are extremely obese. Obesity itself may cause sleep apnea in the mother, in addition to the smothering danger of pendulous breasts and large fat rolls.

       

    3. You are exhausted from sleep deprivation. This lessens your awareness of your baby and your arousability from sleep.

       

    4. You are breastfeeding a baby on a cushiony surface, such as a waterbed or couch. An exhausted mother could fall asleep breastfeeding and roll over on the baby.

       

    5. You are the child's baby-sitter. A baby-sitter's awareness and arousability is unlikely to be as acute as a mother's.

       

  • Don't allow older siblings to sleep with a baby under nine months. Sleeping children do not have the same awareness of tiny babies as do parents, and too small or too crowded a bed space is an unsafe sleeping arrangement for a tiny baby.

     

  • Don't fall asleep with baby on a couch. Baby may get wedged between the back of the couch and the larger person's body, or baby's head may become buried in cushion crevices or soft cushions.

     

  • Do not sleep with baby on a free-floating, wavy waterbed or similar "sinky" surface in which baby could suffocate.

     

  • Don't overheat or overbundle baby. Be particularly aware of overbundling if baby is sleeping with a parent. Other warm bodies are an added heat source.

     

  • Don't wear lingerie with string ties longer than eight inches. Ditto for dangling jewelry. Baby may get caught in these entrapments.

     

  • Avoid pungent hair sprays, deodorants, and perfumes. Not only will these camouflage the natural maternal smells that baby is used to and attracted to, but foreign odors may irritate and clog baby's tiny nasal passages. Reserve these enticements for sleeping alone with your spouse.

     

Parents should use common sense when sharing sleep. Anything that could cause you to sleep more soundly than usual or that alters your sleep patterns can affect your baby's safety. Nearly all the highly suspected (but seldom proven) cases of fatal "overlying" I could find in the literature could have been avoided if parents had observed common sense sleeping practices.

The bottom line is that many parents share sleep with their babies. It can be done safely if the proper precautions are observed. The question shouldn't be "is it safe to sleep with my baby?", but rather "how can I sleep with my baby safely." The data on the incidence of SIDS in a bed versus a crib must be examined before the medical community can make a judgment on sleep safety in a bed.

Posted by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 7:06 AM
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  • athenax3
  • by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 7:29 AM
  • I slept/ sleep with all my babies because it just seemed the natural thing for me. I appreciate you posting, but I don't care what studies say whether some doc thinks it's ok or not, I'm gonna do what my instincts tell me is right for us and it never occurred to me to do otherwise. Thanks for posting though!


  • CharmaineL
  • by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 7:33 AM
  • No, I don't like kicking.  My dh and I get very cranky if sleep is interrupted.  For my siblings and I, we never co-slept and my mom tells us this all the time as I have a cousin who does co-sleep with her infant and my mother loves to reprimand her.  In fact, I don't even think we were allowed in their bedroom, lol.  It wasn't until I was 12 or 13 that I was allowed to sit with my mom in her room to hang out!

  • IhartU
  • by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 8:39 AM
  • My oldest slept with me until she was seven, my middle daughter slept with me off and on, but preferred her crib and my son is now seven and still sleeps with me every night.

    I never one time rolled on them, had them fall out of bed or find them in the crack between the bed and the wall. They slept in the crook of my arm on their backs and all was well.

     

  • marine_wife_02
  • by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 8:43 AM
  • With my 1st DD I Co-slept  intill she was 6-9 months it was so hard to get her out of my bed. So with my 2nd DD she as only slept with me ones or twice. Alyssa always slept in the crook of my arm and I didnt have to worry about daddy because he was in iraq.

  • gacgbaker
  • by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 8:45 AM
  • We never let our kids sleep in the same bed with us, just wasn't even a thought that crossed our minds.  We also sleep on a full size bed, so really even if we wanted to there isn't much space.  I like having our bed to ourselves, so I don't think that will be changing anytime soon even with the new baby on the way.  I don't see anything wrong with it, just don't care to do it myself. 

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  • Brandie_xo
  • by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 9:17 AM
  • I wanted to co sleep with my daughter. My daughter had other ideas. lol. She likes being in HER crib, in HER room, so she can have her OWN space. The only time she ever sleeps with us is if she isn't feeling well.

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  • tvschiulaz
  • by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 9:59 AM
  • When DD was young, we had her sleep with us because we both worked and were exhausted with her nocturnal habit of waking up every hour or so.  After she was trached, at the age of 4, we almost had a scare where a chord she uses at night tokeep the trach moist wrapped around her neck.  So since then, she has been sleeping in bed with either myself or DH and the other sleeps in her bed.

    Yep it is a bit of a cramping on the husband/wife lifestyle (we take it when we can get it. LOL), but her safety is first and foremost in our minds.

    Once the trach is removed, she will be butt kicked into her own bed and room.

  • Robin
  • by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 10:13 AM
  •  

    Quoting athenax3:

    I slept/ sleep with all my babies because it just seemed the natural thing for me. I appreciate you posting, but I don't care what studies say whether some doc thinks it's ok or not, I'm gonna do what my instincts tell me is right for us and it never occurred to me to do otherwise. Thanks for posting though!


    I feel the same way.  I was always welcome to sleep in my parents bed when I was little and I knew that when I had kids, they'd be welcome to sleep our bed.

    I usually move them to their own beds once they're asleep... but they always come back a few hours later:)

    I think it's interesting tha the people trying  to say that co-sleeping is unsafe sell cribs and other baby products.  Even with that conflict of interest, the stucy still says, "Research shows that infants who sleep in a crib are twice as likely to suffer a sleep related fatality (including SIDS) than infants who sleep in bed with their parents. "

     

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  • jennmarie77
  • by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 11:00 AM
  • Co-sleeping is not for us.  My 3 yo likes to crawl into bed with us sometimes but he knows that he will be put back in his own bed with lots of kisses and hugs and he knows that he is welcomed in our room if he has a nightmare. 

    I never co-slept and my husband didn't either and we both agree it's not something for us.  I am a very deep sleeper sometimes and would be the one that would roll right over on the child or I would be so scared to do that, that I wouldn't get much sleep and be sick constantly.

    I think it's fine for other people though. 

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  • Esmrlda
  • by on Feb. 12, 2009 at 1:29 PM
  • Thats really cute!  What a precocious independent little girl you have.

    Quoting Brandie_xo:

    I wanted to co sleep with my daughter. My daughter had other ideas. lol. She likes being in HER crib, in HER room, so she can have her OWN space. The only time she ever sleeps with us is if she isn't feeling well.


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