Hot Topic (3/20): Record Number of Babies Born to Single Moms

[Cafe GroupAdmin]

According to Yahoo News, a record number of babies were born in 2007.  Forty percent of those babies were born to single mothers, more than ever before. 

Do you think it affects kids to be born to mothers who are not married?  Or does it not matter at all?  Why do you think so many babies are born to unwed moms?

[jrdnjstn00]

I do think it affects them. I don't care what anyone says.

I am a single mom with 2 boys, they have different dads. My oldest son's dad was cheating so we went our seperate ways but he is still in his life. My youngest son's dad just dissappeared when I was 5mo pregnant, I didn't find him for 2yrs. So I'm not a single mom by choice.

It affects my older son less then my younger one. My oldest one will ask on occasion if his dad can come with us whereever we are going I tell him no because we do not get along. My youngest is always asking if I'm bringing him home a dad. He makes Father's Day cards at school but has no one to give it to. i just tell him that I can be just as good a dad as a mom.

[Mommy_of_Riley]

Honestly... I think single mothers can do just as good of a job as two parents when it comes to raising their children.  My mom did just fine.  :)

But do I think it affects the kids?  Speaking for myself... yes it does affect them.  I wanted to know about my dad and you have a lot of questions growing up but does it affect me now?  No, I grew up great and well-rounded... I have a great education, morals, and beliefs because of how my mom raised me.  :)

[hsteele]

I think it depends on the situation. For example a mother who voluntarily has children as a single woman with an anonymous donor will not have ex issues or something like that, or absent parent issues. It also depends on the mother and how she handles the situation. If she is happy with the situation and not resentful of the fact that she is the only parent, then I think her kids will be ok with the situation as well. A two parent home is not always better. Think of all the 2 parent homes where mom and dad are fighting, the wreckage that is caused by divorce etc. What is traditional is not always best.

[greenAllie]

I agree with the comments above.  There is no right and wrong family formula.  it is the loving, safe and nurturing environment that is important.

[Da1nOnlyDestiny]

Oh of course that would be hard on your oldest his father is still around. That makes a lot of sense.

Quoting jrdnjstn00:

I do think it affects them. I don't care what anyone says.

I am a single mom with 2 boys, they have different dads. My oldest son's dad was cheating so we went our seperate ways but he is still in his life. My youngest son's dad just dissappeared when I was 5mo pregnant, I didn't find him for 2yrs. So I'm not a single mom by choice.

It affects my older son less then my younger one. My oldest one will ask on occasion if his dad can come with us whereever we are going I tell him no because we do not get along. My youngest is always asking if I'm bringing him home a dad. He makes Father's Day cards at school but has no one to give it to. i just tell him that I can be just as good a dad as a mom.

[Da1nOnlyDestiny]

I would have to agree with the above posters simply because each situation is very different. I am no longer with my children's bio father. I was a single mother for 4 years until I met my fiance. My youngest son does not know who his father but my oldest son remembered him slightly. I did not hide who he was, I always explained to my oldest that his father loved him very much but was going through a phase in life where he needed extra help and guidance. Their father kept getting in trouble with the law and did a 3 year sentence. We also have an order of protection against that was in total for 5 years. Both my children are turning 5 and 7. We separated when I was pregnant with my youngest because he was stealing from me and my child (money) and was leaving his son with out formula or pampers.

It has been a hard road but I am grateful that my children are loved and well taken care of, and when he is brought up in any convo it will always be a pleasant convo.

[2cuddlebabies]

me and my S/O are not married, have been together for going on 12 yrs. since i was 14.

I do not think it matters. our son was born in 05 and our daughter in 08. some have asked why we are not married but we dont want to, we are content with they way we are. i am actually afraid of divorce.

plus i have always said i will only get married at graceland.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Dayija]

I think single moms are AWSOME!!!

They do it because men only weigh you don't. They're just an extra child to raise. LOL

Hmmm, Maybe I should become a single mom. j/k

But whatever reason why single moms are single, Kudos!

 

[sweetie00]

Do you think it affects kids to be born to mothers who are not married?  no Or does it not matter at all?  nope Why do you think so many babies are born to unwed moms? bc couples aren't getting married, can't get married, men are irresponsible, octomom, etc, etc; Many reasons.

[KenzieRoosMom]

I think ANY CHILD who has someone who loves them beyond measure can grow up to do great things. Do I think that they have a harder road to travel? In most cases, yes. But the strength of a loving, supportive, dedicated mom is enough to raise a loving, successful, smart and mature family.