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Spanking Illegal? Another Country Considers a Ban

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Spanking Illegal? Another Country Considers a Ban

 

Phillipines considers spanking banThe Phillipines is inching closer to a ban on all forms of corporeal punishment against kids -- including spanking, according to a recent article on Babble.

Supporters of the bill cite evidence that spanking or other forms of corporeal punishment do not improve a child's behavior over time, and in fact increases his chances of distrusting authority and acting out. In the US, it's legal to spank, paddle and whip children in all 50 states.

This is a controversial subject. Many CafeMoms are vehemently opposed to spanking, while a lot of others support it as a valid and effective form of discipline.

Because such a law, if it ever came to the US, might directly affect CafeMoms like those in the Moms who spank group, I asked group owner SalemWitchChild to weigh in with her opinion.

She feels it's wrong for the Philippines to lump spanking and child abuse together. Spanking moms absolutely do not condone things like whipping or burning. Her group defines spanking as:

  • Light spankings on the bum only.
  • No more swats than the child is old.
  • Only as a last resort -- never as the sole form or first line of punishment.
  • It should be done with love (never anger) but with firm authority.
  • Before the spanking, the parent should always explain what the child has done wrong, what should have been done or not done, and why they must have a spanking.

"Real children are not like those on a TV show, where Dad comes in at night and talks to their child, and then the child miraculously sees why their actions are wrong and they will never do it again," SalemWitchChild says. "Spanking mothers realize that without obedience, a child will run wild. Spankings are just one way to demand that obedience. We have all tried time-outs, taking away privileges, etc. To some children, these things quickly make no difference."

A blogger on Babble, Hannah Tennant-Moore, who is obviously opposed to spanking, said it's no wonder that many teens believe it was right for Chris Brown to express anger at Rihanna by beating her up.

SalemWitchChild disagrees there is any connection between spanking and the making of criminals or women who stay with abusive husbands. She's unaware of any study to prove it, and if there is, she doubts that it differentiates between abuse and responsible parental spanking.

Do you think there's a connection?

 

 

 


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by on Mar. 30, 2009 at 10:01 PM
Replies (11-15):
Esmrlda
by on Mar. 31, 2009 at 1:21 PM

I dont believe there is a connection with a child that was spanked and an adult who is abusive.  I dont see anything wrong with spanking, and yes pp more children NEED to be spanked. Some types of discipline dont work on all children. Every child is different therefore, need different types of discipline. Sometimes the only way a child will listen is to be spanked.  I spanked my DD18 while she was growing up, and she is one of the most well rounded person I know. She is not abusive and does not date boys that are abusive. No Connection.

ellyc19111
by Bronze Member on Mar. 31, 2009 at 1:45 PM


Quoting Penny136:

frustratedEveryone was spanked....back in the day. {including me] It's just BS that they will just ACT OUT or it won't do any good. HA! That's WHY most kids are soooo bad today....not enough SPANKING !! There is a big difference between spanking and abusing. I spanked my children , when they were bad. One is a nurse and the other a happy mother of two...stay-at-home , great daughter !! Let's get REAL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

 

YOU said it all!


Mommy_of_Riley
by Jes on Mar. 31, 2009 at 1:50 PM

No bashing from me.  I completely agree with you!  :)

Quoting Wyldbutterfly:

I personally feel that had more children been spanked in their lifetime that there would not be so many spoiled p pots who do not know how to respect anyone or anything!

Let the bashing begin!



   Wife of a Marine - Mommy to a Little Prince
            
& Expecting a Princess in May!                

BabyGracesMommy
by Member on Mar. 31, 2009 at 4:26 PM

Well I don't spank my daughter, and I believe she will still grow up to be a good, strong woman. But banning it?  I'm not sure I agree with that.

SunandMoonMom
by Member on Mar. 31, 2009 at 4:33 PM

Completely agree!  My son knows we love him and he is very loving.  He knows he only gets a spanking when he does something extremely bad...and we always explain ourselves and our actions to him.

I THANK my parents for spanking me, and teaching me respect and responsibility.  Every child is different...but every child needs some form of effective discipline.

Quoting ellyc19111:


Quoting Penny136:

frustratedEveryone was spanked....back in the day. {including me] It's just BS that they will just ACT OUT or it won't do any good. HA! That's WHY most kids are soooo bad today....not enough SPANKING !! There is a big difference between spanking and abusing. I spanked my children , when they were bad. One is a nurse and the other a happy mother of two...stay-at-home , great daughter !! Let's get REAL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 


YOU said it all!



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