Hot Topic (5/14): What's harder? Being a working mom or stay-at-home mom?
What do you think is harder?
Quoting aidans_mama:no need to compare the two...they both work very hard. i think it is better for kids to have a mom (and a dad) period....doesn't matter if they are a sahm or a working mom. just be the best mom you can be to your children.
I couldnt have said it better
I can't say, I have always been a working and WAHM (at the same time), so can't compare. I do know that I am exhausted from the moment I wake up until my head hits the pillow 18-20 hrs later (I am only up right now because I am waiting for clothes to dry).
Oh here we go again, let the battle begin! Both are hard, I have done both, they are both different and hard for their own reasons!!! My answer is both!
Amanda
I have done both...and I would day being a fulltime working mom was harder. I don't consider being a SAHM a "job" and I don't find it hard at all. What's hard about spending the day at the zoo or pool with my daughter LOL? Now of course everone has different experiences, but for ME personally, it was harder to work full time.
It depends on the mother.
For me, being a SAHM was harder. I had worked from the time my daughter was 6 weeks old until she was almost 4 years old. Suddenly being home with her all the time was so draining and so frustrating. I love my daughter but I am a much better mom when I am working or going to school.
Quoting lilyrose73:
I have done both...and I would day being a fulltime working mom was harder. I don't consider being a SAHM a "job" and I don't find it hard at all. What's hard about spending the day at the zoo or pool with my daughter LOL? Now of course everone has different experiences, but for ME personally, it was harder to work full time.
I think it can be largely personal in nature as to how you percieve these things. For many staying home is the more difficult choice, the isoloation, the lack of financial reward or "higher" interaction, the seemingly petty and never ending demands of a household and children- for many women leaving the house to go to work, where they are able to be thier "grown UP" unhindered selves in a setting which doesn't require them to smile through banal playgroups and fix snacks for a herd of tiny people in an effort to keep them from eating the cat souds delightful, lol....not to mention the lack of appreciation so many sah can feel- I call it "invisible syndrome", lol.
I would say being a working mom is harder, but not the physical part of working so much, it's the leaving your children in the care of someone else. it's the having to miss a school play b/c of a deadline. it's the not being there at night to tuck in or in the morning to say good morning and witness bed head. it's the watching your child grow right before your eyes and not having a clue as to where the time went!
a sahm works just as hard physically as a working mom outside the home, but gets to be there for the firsts, the seconds milestones and acheivements their children make.
and, wahm have the best of it all!!
all of this is my own humble opinion though.
Yeah, I never just spend the day at the zoo as a SAHM, I do alot when I am home..but that's us I guess...and also for us, it can be very hard (stressful) bringing the kids to the zoo or pool, lol.
Quoting lilyrose73:
I have done both...and I would day being a fulltime working mom was harder. I don't consider being a SAHM a "job" and I don't find it hard at all. What's hard about spending the day at the zoo or pool with my daughter LOL? Now of course everone has different experiences, but for ME personally, it was harder to work full time.
Amanda
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on May. 14, 2009 at 2:40 AM