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Hot Topic (6/30): Would you forgive a cheater?

Posted by on Jun. 30, 2009 at 12:52 AM
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Jenny Sanford, here with her husband, was a Wall Street executive before she married Mark Sanford. 
Jenny Sanford, here with her husband, was a Wall Street executive before she married Mark Sanford.

 

Last week, South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford admitted that he's having an affair.

After disappearing from the public eye for nearly a week, South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford,  49, admitted to having an extramarital affair with an Argentine woman.

His wife Jenny Sanford told reporters, ""I don't know if he'll be with me, but I'm going to do my best to work on my marriage because I believe in marriage. I believe in raising good kids."

 

Would you forgive your husband if he had an affair on you?

 





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cowgirlsr2
by Silver Member on Jun. 30, 2009 at 1:03 AM

Been there HELL NO men tend to forget about that stuff you can't wash off.

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Robyn218
by on Jun. 30, 2009 at 1:06 AM

28 years of marriage.  No Affairs.  My hubby would be homeless immediately if I found out he strayed...  AND he likes my cooking too much to be homeless.

dereksmommy1227
by on Jun. 30, 2009 at 1:46 AM
No I have more self respect than to stay with a man who didn't respect me enough not to stray. I wouldn't cheat on him so I expect the same respect. If he strays it better be worth it because I'm not sticking around. That would be THE END.

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Eilish
by on Jun. 30, 2009 at 1:46 AM

I would forgive my hubby ... and pray that he doesn't stray again. But I how could I not forgive him for a sin that God would forgive him for? That would be pretty arrogant of me. If it continued to be a problem, then it could be grounds for divorce, but divorce doesn't also mean that you can't forgive.


rocklovinggirl
by Bronze Member on Jun. 30, 2009 at 4:50 AM

I wish I could say I would agree with you but I don't honestly think I could ever forget what he did to continue in the marriage! I like your mindset on this though.

Quoting Eilish:

I would forgive my hubby ... and pray that he doesn't stray again. But I how could I not forgive him for a sin that God would forgive him for? That would be pretty arrogant of me. If it continued to be a problem, then it could be grounds for divorce, but divorce doesn't also mean that you can't forgive.


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jalex
by on Jun. 30, 2009 at 5:28 AM

NOPE!  His clothes and ass would be GoNe...

Mary0791
by on Jun. 30, 2009 at 7:28 AM

 I don't know if I could ever forgive my husband cheating on me.  However, even if I could, I would not be able to stay married to him.  I would never be able to fully trust him again and my mind would probably replay what they did over and over.  I have a hard time letting things go & once the doubt is there and the trust disappears what kind of relationship is that?

 

So, maybe eventual forgiveness, but I could not forget.

dlb99
by Member on Jun. 30, 2009 at 7:35 AM

forgiving, maybe but never forget.  I would not be able to trust him at all and would choose not to be humiliated any further.


MrsTMorgan
by on Jun. 30, 2009 at 7:38 AM

Never. He knows better than that and promised it would never happen. If he cheated, I'd kick him out faster than he could attempt an apology.

247mamaandwife
by Member on Jun. 30, 2009 at 7:55 AM

nope beuase they KNEW what they were doing and did it any ways ! to me thats ignnorant  and stupid! they only thing he would be feeling is my size 8 helping out of the house

I am a SAHM , I am a loving devoted military wife ! . I have never co-slept , I formula feed ! I spank, use times outs .  I am teaching my child manners ! I will not alow my child to think she can be a picky eater .  I am opiniated , sarcastic! I am not afaid to defend my opinion  and will let you know it ! I swear! I dont feel like i have to play with my child every second of every day ! I am honest with my child ! I don't sugar coat things for her .  how ever i am completely in love with her! I love being my husbands wife its one of the best things i have ever been called! and my Daughter mother is is the other best thing i have ever been called!


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