From telegraph.co.uk: (click to read whole story)
While sisters are known for their love of sharing, Mormon siblings Katie and Priscilla Churcher have chosen to share more than most in their choice of husband Travis.
The pair live with their husband and eight children in a large house in Salt Lake City in the American state of Utah and insist they are very happy with their choice.
They have three cars, a big garden, wardrobes full of stylish clothes and a mountain of toys for all their offspring.
"People might think it's weird to share your husband with your sister, but it's not to us," said Katie, 28.
"It makes Travis a better husband – he's more patient.
"He's had to learn how to cope with two different women with different personalities, and to remember how to make each of us feel special and loved.
"While he's got to check in with both of us, I've got more freedom to see my friends and there's always someone to help with the childcare."
Katie met Travis, an office manager, through her brother and they started dating when she was 17.
Both came from Fundamentalist Mormon families where polygamy was the norm – Katie's father had three wives and Travis's had two.
"Having been brought up that way, we were both open to being in a polygamist relationship and we discussed Travis having lots of wives early on," said Katie.
When the couple married in 1998, Katie's younger sister Priscilla was one of the many guests.
Within months, Katie fell pregnant with first child Legacy and by 2003 the couple had two more children, Travis and Benny.
Katie said was a mutual decision for Travis to ask Priscilla if she wanted to marry him too.
"We'd always wondered whether polygamy could work for us, because I'd loved having so many brothers and sisters when I was young and wanted the same for my kids," explained Katie.
"I could see a lot of positives to this way of life because you have more independence.
"We felt we'd all get along but wanted to make sure Priscilla would fit in so I asked if she'd consider getting to know us better."
Priscilla was shocked to be asked, but eventually agreed to go out for dinner with Travis while Katie babysat the children.
"It was weird at first," said Priscilla, now 24. "Because he was married to my sister I tried not to let myself get too close, but I could see he was compassionate husband and a great dad and I wanted that too."
After months of regular dates to the cinema and romantic walks, Priscilla realised she was falling in love and with Katie's blessing got engaged to Travis.
Because polygamy is banned in the US, Travis couldn't legally take another wife, but vowed his love to Priscilla in an unofficial church ceremony – as Katie looked on. (Click here to read more.)
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Should polygamy be legalized?
Why or why not?
Would you ever agree to a polygamous relationship?
Actually, my husband and I have talked about this on more than one occasion.
He and I both feel that it would work for us, so long as the other wife felt the same. As a way to share mutual love and respect, and as a way to increase the family, I PERSONALLY would consider doing this. (No judgemental issues here please. )
There seems to be a lot of things that DH and I consider benefits in a polygamous relationship- there would always be a decent division of household responsibilities, there would always be at least one person home to watch the children, there is the potential for 2 or more incomes without having to pay for childcare, and there would always be someone to fulfil the personal needs of the other adults in the relationship. (IE- talking/venting, a hug, a helping hand or shoulder to cry on, physical affection, someone to fill the void, adult conversation instead of nothing but childrens' chatter....)
I claim to be honest, and I am. I never said you'd like me for my opinions...
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Should polygamy be legalized? Yes. This is a country based on the idea of freedom. If people decide to live this way, than they should be able to
Why or why not? (already answered above)
Would you ever agree to a polygamous relationship? Personally, I could never do it. I'm old fashioned when it comes to romance I guess. :)
I don't agree with it but each to their own. Having said that, as long as its between consenting adults, not brainwashing and forcing kids into such a lifestyle as is often the case. Some mormons think that is ok, fortunately not all think that way - yet another fine example of why I am not a fan of organized religion.
NO and NO! God designed marriage to be between one man and one woman. The only reason polygamous relationships even exist is because of the selfishness of men. They're only interested in having their own physical desires met. Women are emotional beings and I think adding another woman to the equation only complicates things. It's hard enough to make a marriage work as it is.
Quoting Suzys_monkees:
NO and NO! God designed marriage to be between one man and one woman. The only reason polygamous relationships even exist is because of the selfishness of men. They're only interested in having their own physical desires met. Women are emotional beings and I think adding another woman to the equation only complicates things. It's hard enough to make a marriage work as it is.
I agree totally!! you put it very well. Thank you.
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