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The honor killing post got me thinking about abusive dynamics in other religions and how the, some might argue, misinterpretation of any holy book can create a climate of abuse against women.  This is taken from the website:

What is CDD?

A Domestic Discipline (DD) marriage is one in which one partner is given authority over the other, and has the means to back up that authority, usually by spanking. The application and practise of DD in each marriage is as unique as the individuals who make up that marriage. There is no "One Ring of Power" in the Domestic Discipline world, to which all DD couples must bow; no singular path to "true DD enlightenment". What works well for one DD couple may not be a good fit for another marriage. Therefore, you may see many different suggestions espoused on this site and elsewhere.

A Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) marriage is simply a traditional, male-led, Christian marriage which utilises aspects of Domestic Discipline. It is set up according to Biblical standards.

Therefore, in a CDD marriage, the husband is the authority of the household.
The wife is submissive to her husband as if the Lord Himself was her husband.

The husband is to love his wife as himself, and as Christ loved the church. He is to be a servant, and leads by example. He is to lay down his life for her.
The wife is to reverence her husband. She is to obey him, so long as his instructions are not in opposition to God's commands.

He has the ultimate authority in his household, but this authority is tempered with the knowledge that he will answer to God for his actions and decisions. The final decision rests with him, and therefore, the final responsibility, whatever the outcome, is his to bear. A wise husband will not make a major decision without prayerfully asking God for wisdom, and without seeking his wife's counsel.

He is to be the head of the home. She is to be the heart of the home.

He is not a dictator. She is not a doormat.

He is not a overbearing Lord of the Estate, seeking to trample over his family. She is not some weak-minded lass, needing to be molly-coddled, or seeking to get straightened around.

He has the responsibility for leading his family and is accountable before God for their well-being and development. He has the authority to spank his wife for disciplinary reasons, but in real CDD marriages, this authority is taken quite seriously and usually happens rarely. Most CDD marriages do use spanking, generally for serious offences, such as the "Four D's" (Disobedience, Disrespect, Dishonesty, or Dangerous [as in dangerous choices... reckless driving, disobeying doctor's orders, etc]). Some CDD marriages also use non-corporal disciplines, such as writing lines, or the temporary forfeiture of a favourite privilege. Again, every marriage is unique, and CDD is much more than just corporal punishment or spanking.

CDD is not a "magic pill", and this website does not claim CDD will prevent all marital rows. It is simply a tool, one method which many couples round the world feel is quite effective in strengthening their marriages, and improving the quality of their relationship.

CDD is the husband loving his wife enough to patiently guide and unselfishly cherish her.
CDD is the wife loving her husband enough to follow his leadership and trust his direction.
A Christian marriage should embody selfless love and true romance.
A Christian couple is to be a reflection of Jesus and His Bride.

If you are not a Christian would this cause you to look at Christians differently?

If you are a Christian would you be comfortable with people of other faiths assuming that this is the dynamic in your home?


by on Aug. 21, 2009 at 3:04 PM
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by on Aug. 22, 2009 at 4:17 PM

I talked to my hubby about this last night after he got home from work.

We even went to the CDD website to read up a little more because neither one of us had ever heard of this before yesterday.

Needless to say.. Yeah.. We both feel it's a sick and twisted practice after reading the website.

Really seems like that this is advocated and has come about for a couple of reasons:

1) People who do have a little freak in them, like a little slap and tickle in the bedroom.. Either giving or receiving. And they didn't feel that those types of sexual activities went with their religious beliefs. So this is a way that they fill that need.

2).. Men who have really heavy control issues.. Who want total control of everything in their lives, including their wives' actions...

3).. Men who have control issues who wish to be able to hit their wives but need a justification. And with this they got one, "Religion"..

4) It is used by some as a means to handle conflict and problems in their marriage. Instead of working together to try and  fix their problems. They just punish or discipline their spouse and bingo their problems they have are gone.

EDIT::::::  I cut off the crap from the site and their link since the OP had already put it up..


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