I have read a lot about covering. I, myself, do not, but I do consider myself modest. I still wear tank tops and skirts that are around knee level, but I feel perfectly modest in them. I also wear bathing suits when I go to the pool. I find modesty to be more than just how you cover yourself, but also how you carry yourself. I get upset everything I go to the mall because I feel SO insecure and uncomfortable with how other females ACT. I can't imagine wearing shorts the way those girls do, their intentions ("look at meh bootay!") written all over them. But yet, to a lot of you, I am that girl I suppose. I wonder, then, what you all think of the 'levels' of modesty are. At what point does clothing become modest? Do others of you believe modesty can also, then, be just a state of mind and action if the person exposes their body?
Absolutely. Being modest in our actions is actually more important than being modest in our dress, imo.
I wear shorts in the summer, long shorts but shorts nonetheless. I'm not immodest. I wear cap sleeves and u-neck and v-neck shirts that don't show cleavage. I don't believe I need to wear a head covering unless I'm cold.
But I don't sashay across the room or bend over to flash my rear or my breasts. I don't flirt with men. I don't intentionally call attention to my body. I maintain eye contact and don't let my eyes roam over other people's bodies. I don't discuss things that are no one else's business with others unless there is a clear reason and then it's vague enough that I'm not revealing private matters. (What goes on in my bedroom is not a topic for casual conversation.)
If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat. For we hear that some among you walk in idleness, not busy at work, but busybodies. Now such persons we command and encourage in the Lord Jesus Christ to do their work quietly and to earn their own living. -- II Thess 3:10b-12
Soooooo much of modesty has to do with our actions.
You can be covered to wear you show nothing but your hands and face but if you don't also act modest, all that covering means nothing. It's being clothed but naked.
Modesty is such a personal definition. LOL you're definitely NOT immodest. Some people can really pull off tanks and shorts and look modest. Lol, I can't. My butt is FAR too big for that.
It's really horrible to say but I see mostly teens at the mall acting in a way that I feel embarrassed for them :-(
There is a lot to be said about modestly being an attitude. If I saw you in a knee length skirt or shorts, I wouldn't think anything of it. The tank top? Eh. Depends on how tight it might be. But how you acted in your clothes would be a huge factor in what I might think of you, if I gave you any thought at all.
While there are many in this group that cover their heads, there are many of us that don't. I don't.
Oh my gosh, I can't stand teen girls at the mall. For some weird reason yesterday, two little like, 12 year old girls walked by me making barfing noises. Trace insists I'm exaggarating and that they weren't doing it at me, but they were pointedly looking at me, and walked away glancing over their shoulders and laughing! I was so disgusted! It was soooo hard to bite my tongue and not say anything, but I managed to walk away and get easily distracted by a sale.
*sigh* I pity today's youth.
That would have P'd me off big time! Oh well, just stupid immature girls.
What I usually wonder is wear are the parents? At 12 I wasn't allowed at the mall by myself! Let alone at the mall...LOL...WITH BOYS. I see sooooo many 11 and 12 year old girls making at with boys down in the play area of Independence center and all I can think is WHERE ARE THE PARENTS?!
Quoting Kodeekins:
Oh my gosh, I can't stand teen girls at the mall. For some weird reason yesterday, two little like, 12 year old girls walked by me making barfing noises. Trace insists I'm exaggarating and that they weren't doing it at me, but they were pointedly looking at me, and walked away glancing over their shoulders and laughing! I was so disgusted! It was soooo hard to bite my tongue and not say anything, but I managed to walk away and get easily distracted by a sale.
*sigh* I pity today's youth.
Of course! You can dress covering your entire body, head to toe and still be a immodest person by your actions!
As it has been discussed here many degrees of modesty, it is all up to your own personal veiws!
For me, in my life there are 3 degrees of modesty that I am struggling with! Right now, I dress in long skirts, pants, long sleeve shirts. Sometimes wear the abaya (long dresses) and I want to wear them full time, but I am still uncomfortable with it. I am also drawn to the face covering, but that is a long way off for me! I don't see myself wearing it as long as I live in USA.
I used to think of modesty for myself being more in my state of mind before I started wanting to dress more modestly. Now that I dress more modestly I don't feel like I was as modest as I thought I was. I think I"ve always had trouble being empathetic to see consider how other people look at me. I'm an oblivious sort of person.
I definitley agree that there are levels though. My SIL seems very modest to me although I could not wear the kinds of things she wears having a totally different body type. I agree that it depends a lot on how a person moves and acts. It also depends on body type.
What I really hate, hate, hate is when those teenaged girls wear words on the seat of their pants or shorts.
i have felt myself pulled to full covering clothing and possibly head covering. i recently started attending a LDS church and found thru some teachings that the bible (not the book of mormon, i am still working on that and im not sure i bleieve it. but what is great about this church is while they are LDS they do not REQUIRE me to believe in the book of mormon. its more about worship for jesus and god) but anyway, the bible teaches that a woman covers her head as a sign of submissiveness to the church and to Jesus.
however, i also know that God will forgive me when i cannot do so in 115 degree weather here in phoenix. i have asthma and it would just be insainely difficult.
I also do not cover. For me modesty is not showing off my legs (above the knee), or excessive skin on top. I, too, occasionally wear longer shorts or capri's and tanks/sleeveless shirts when it is very hot. But it is the style/cut of the cloting that sets me apart. I don't wear things that are really really clingy, or really short or low cut. I try to carry myself with a gentle feminine air which could not be pulled off if I was flaunting my goods.
--Liberty
Mom to Allie and G-man.
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- Kodeekins
on Nov. 7, 2009 at 8:41 PM