and I am not afraid to say so. I find it amazing how many people are both supportave of my beliefs, and how many people get incredibaly angry. I am not trying to push my beliefs on anyone, so why get angry with me for what I believe?
For those who say polygamist are
child abusers, or marry off little girls... Were do you get your
information from, because the vast majority are not like that? Most
polygamist are normal families, that happen to have more than one
wife/mother. They do not marry their children off at 12, or 14, or
16. They do not force their children to believe, or marry into,
polygamy. We teach our children our beliefs, and when they grow to
adults, they have their agency to believe, and live, what and how they
choose.
The news stories out there have no interest in publishing anything about the 'normal' and 'non-abusive' polygamist families. Where is the interest in that? If we base all our information on what we see in the news, I could then say the same for monogamist. I see lots of stories on the news about monogamists... men abusing small children and babies, Priests abusing boys, mothers and fathers killing their children. I saw a story the other day of a monogamist mother who would, as her 4 yr old daughter said, "cook her in the oven like a turkey".
You
can't put
all polygamist in the same boat as a few rotten apples. If you do, you
have to hold yourself, and beliefs to the same standard. Most of the
monogamist society isn't like the news stories we hear. It is the same
with the polygamist society, as well. Please try to remember this.
I don't understand why in most states, plural marriage is illegal. It's not like it's a morality thing. You can have all kinds of sexual relations, with as many people as you want, but the moment you call her a wife, DH is in danger of prison time. It was lived in the Bible by many of the Prophets. It is my religious belief to live plural marriage. I don't see why I am prevented from living my religion. I don't want the government to get involved in my marriage, I would just like to see it decriminalized.
What are your views on the subject?
I tend to apply the Live and Let Live philosophy to most things. Polygamy is not for me. But it clearly IS for you, and that's your choice. I don't really see how YOUR beliefs impact my life.
That's my stance on most things.
But I will say that I get exceedingly annoyed by the "I don't understand it so I don't like it so it must be very wrong and bad and dirty" viewpoint our society seems to have about EVERYTHING.
Basically, I am an easygoing person with no tolerance for those without tolerance :)
Personally it wouldn't work for me (I am a little bit of a jealous one lol) If it works for others though without all the jealousy stuff, not forced upon somebody, and is safe for the kids (not just physically but mentally as well) that whatever works. My only other conern would be if a women marrys the man and just agrees with it to be with him but doesn't actually believe in it then it might cause some problems for her mentally, like her selfesstem or selfworth. I don't think that it is something that should be taken lightly and I think that if mariage is ever concidered that the topic should be discussed if one believes in it because the other may not.
But like I said, it would not work for me at all.
I agree. This is not something that couples should just jump into. It is something that can break a marriage apart. Everyone should be completely for it, understand what they are getting into, and know that it is forever.
Quoting cutiepieusa879:Personally it wouldn't work for me (I am a little bit of a jealous one lol) If it works for others though without all the jealousy stuff, not forced upon somebody, and is safe for the kids (not just physically but mentally as well) that whatever works. My only other conern would be if a women marrys the man and just agrees with it to be with him but doesn't actually believe in it then it might cause some problems for her mentally, like her selfesstem or selfworth. I don't think that it is something that should be taken lightly and I think that if mariage is ever concidered that the topic should be discussed if one believes in it because the other may not.
But like I said, it would not work for me at all.
This isn't something I could ever do. I just don't have it in me to share, or even to be shared. I'm 150% monogamous, lol, and I'm waaay too over-sentimental and sensitive to ever consider it for myself.
However, I do believe that those who can and do wish to live this way should by all means be able to. As long as they are grown adults who consent to the situation completely, going in completely informed (like knowing when they first go out with a man that he has a wife at home already, and not being surprised about it months into a relationship, kwim?). I can understand the benifits from a family living like this, and I'm in complete support of those who wish to do so.
It just wouldn't work for me or my family is all.
=)
I don't think the government should have any say in marriage or civil unions. These are contracts between individuals of legal majority that should not be restricted by the government. If a man wants to enter into a union with another man, or 2 women, or 3 women and 6 men, that decision should be between the consenting parties involved and is no business of the government.
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