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Mother-in-law called bogus childeren in youth case on us what would you do?

Posted by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:16 AM
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My husbands mother called childeren and youth on my husband and i the other week because my son (who is just starting to walk) hit his head and had a less then cen. cut on it. And just because i didnt take him to the hospital she called. However i did have an emt look at it and he said my son was fine just to keep an eye on him the rest of the night (which i did), now my question is if your mother or mother-in-law called them on you would you accept her apology or not? Since first off she never called to see if her grandson was okay.

and the newest thing is my son truns one this mth and the day we are having a party(that she is not invited to) she planned a halloween party (after knowing about the party for mths) so now all his family are torn to what party to go to. Since she made the remark that if they care about her they will be there. And who has a halloween party at 1 in the afternoon? The SAME TIME my sons FIRST B-DAY party is!!!

As you can tell this really makes me mad so if anyone could tell me what they would do. Because right now i want to get rid of her but i dont want to hurt my husband anymore then she already has. (since baby up shes hurt him)

by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:16 AM
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Iluvjandkplus8
by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:21 AM
That would just about do it for me. I mean you will never be able to trust her after that. You wouldn't put up with that kind of behavior from a stranger let alone someone who is suppose to care about you and your family. To me just because someone is family, doesn't give them a free pass.
nilla4jesus
by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:23 AM

What a psyco!!! I'd wanna slap her. I would keep the party on the same day...but  you could always have a party at a different time than your MIL's...that way people can go to both...I wouldn't be going to her party though.

momtoezzie
by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:24 AM

OMG she is just ridiculous in all sense of the word.

This sounds like my MIL and God, I wish I knew what to say to you, but I don't, sorry.

But keep your plans. Don't forfeit your son's birthday for that stupid Halloween party. He will still have Halloween.

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Sharnncy
by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:29 AM

I wouldn't accept an apology. That was a bit much on her to do. And the party thing is even worse. Knowing that its your sons first birthday party, and making a party at the same time and day. Is rediculous. She's acting like she's the baby. Wow some people never cease to amaze me. As for your family and the parties, don't be like her and pull the same guilt trip that she is. Just let them know you would like to see them there but if they can't make it, don't sweat it. It will be your sons day and as long you and your hubby is there, thats all a child can really ask for. Make it his day. I am sorry that you have have to go through this. 

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msswisher08
by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:29 AM

oh and i forgot to mention the childeren and youth case worker who is also a manager looked at my sons head and laughed saying that she wouldnt have took him in either

MumsTheWord571
by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:29 AM

Wow. A baby falls. They get hurt. It happens. You don't have to go to the ER everytime it happens. Boys seem to hurt themselves more often than girls, as a mother- she should know that. I can't believe that she called on you guys!

If she had planned the party at the same time, and then said that if the family cared about her they'd be at her house I'd have been pissed and would have thrown a hissy fit. Adding in that she called on you guys about him hitting his head I would really flip out! Not only would she not be welcome in my house, but I would not allow her anywhere near my DS.

I am dealing with a crazy person living in my house~ but even she hasn't gone THAT far!

Your DH should tell her to take a long walk off of a very short pier.

I hope his party goes well!

zoeybearsmama
by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:40 AM

i know how u feel, my mother in law did the same thing to me and that was only because my daughter was sick and we didn't go over to her house so she freaked out, but that's a long story.  anyways, not that i think she was right in anything she did but maybe she did it because you didn't invite her to your sons birthday party and she was hurt so shes trying to get back at you.  Either way this isn't going to end good, because she will get mad if they go to yours and u will be upset, understandably, if they don't go to yours, maybe you should make the party a little earlier to try to accommodate things.  it might not be fair but it is prolly the best answer to the dilemma.

msswisher08
by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:46 AM

She was invited before all this happened but after it happened we told her not to show up or she would be escorted out by police. Because I do not want her to have anything to do with my son now. But she did get an invite months ago to come to the party; but then she did this

Quoting zoeybearsmama:

i know how u feel, my mother in law did the same thing to me and that was only because my daughter was sick and we didn't go over to her house so she freaked out, but that's a long story.  anyways, not that i think she was right in anything she did but maybe she did it because you didn't invite her to your sons birthday party and she was hurt so shes trying to get back at you.  Either way this isn't going to end good, because she will get mad if they go to yours and u will be upset, understandably, if they don't go to yours, maybe you should make the party a little earlier to try to accommodate things.  it might not be fair but it is prolly the best answer to the dilemma.


aprilwasson
by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 12:59 AM

she said it! its a day for your son...not your mil. that was a real bi*ch  move she pulled and i would just ignore her phone calls. i have a really really horrible father n law and he would never pull that sh*t on his grandchild. expecially on a FIRST birthday. if she is hurting your son and your hubby then i would just say if she wants to be like that then she doesnt need to be  a part of their lives..

Quoting Sharnncy:

I wouldn't accept an apology. That was a bit much on her to do. And the party thing is even worse. Knowing that its your sons first birthday party, and making a party at the same time and day. Is rediculous. She's acting like she's the baby. Wow some people never cease to amaze me. As for your family and the parties, don't be like her and pull the same guilt trip that she is. Just let them know you would like to see them there but if they can't make it, don't sweat it. It will be your sons day and as long you and your hubby is there, thats all a child can really ask for. Make it his day. I am sorry that you have have to go through this. 


Mrs.Loeffel
by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 1:07 AM

wow. thats really messed up. i'm not sure if i could ever look at the woman again. thats just crazy.

and with the party deal...why would your family be "torn" as to which party to go to? umm hello?? a FIRST birthday or a stupid halloween party...duh!!!!! if they have that hard of a time deciding on which to attend, then i wouldn't consider them family anyways.

                                        

                                         


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