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Need advice about my daughters preschool...

Posted by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 4:29 PM
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My daughter is 3, and she started preschool at a church near our house in September.  I thought the school looked great, we met her teacher, and she is really nice.  The best part about it was that my daughter didn't have to be potty trained to attend.  There have been a couple of incidents that I don't think is appropriate.  On her second week of school, we picked my daughter up, and she had a bloody nose, she said she fell on the playground slide, and I could tell she had been crying, her eyes were red and watery and stuff.  The second incident was 2 weeks ago, we picked her up, and she had scratches on her face and said a little boy scratched her.  These two things are understandable. I know kids will be kids, and I don't expect her not to ever get hurt or anything like that when she is with a bunch of kids her own age.  What I felt was kind of dumb, is that the teacher said nothing to us at all about these things.  Not a note or anything.  The worst thing is that my boyfriend, (my daughters father) picked up my daughter last Tuesday, and my daughters pants were soaked down to her knees in pee!  Her teacher didn't say anything to us, the lady who put my daughter in the car didn't say anything.  I don't expect them to change her pull up every time she pees, but if it leaks and she is soaked in pee, they should do something!  I called her school today, and spoke with the director of the school.  I told her that my daughters father didn't want her to attend this school anymore and explained everything that went on.  She said she would talk with her teacher and would call me back.  She called back and said she spoke with her teacher, and the teacher said that she didn't ever notice any bloody nose, or scratches on her any, and she was sorry about that.  Thats fine, but I think they should pay attention to the children a little more.  But her excuse was about the soaked pants issue was that my daughter spilled her water on her lap at snack time, and it was time to leave so she didn't do anything about it, and forgot to mention it to us when she got in the car.  OK, my daughter did not spill water on her, it was pee, her pull up was dripping with pee when we got home to change her.  You could smell the pee on her from a foot away.  I don't think thats right.  IF the teacher didn't want to change her, or whatever, she could have and should have called us to come get her from school.  I admit, she didn't have a change of clotheswith her in her bag, but she had pull ups and wipes.  Change her and call us!  What do you other moms think of this?  Should we take her out of school?  Has things like this happened at your childrens preschool??  I feel bad, because my daughter LOVES going to school, but I don't want her going somewhere that stuff like this happens.  What to you think??

by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 4:29 PM
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by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 4:41 PM

I personally would pull my dd from this preschool, it sounds as if there isn't enough supervision. And, if there is, then they are busy chatting and not paying attention to the kids. 

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by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 6:57 PM

I would pull her out right away.  I was a preschool teacher for more than 11 years.  Even with as many as 27 kids, I tried to talk to the parents during pick up everyday.  It is important to have a good line of communication.  A bloody nose, scratched face and urine soaked clothes is not something they would not have noticed.  I think you should pull her and find a preschool where the teacher has a clue.  Good luck

by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 7:46 PM

The scratched face I think could be easily overlooked. The bloody nose? I'm not thinking its a good idea for a teacher to overlook blood of any kind, thats just gross. Those two things together kind of set a pattern for me. I have a friend who is a preshool teacher and she has to fill out reports on stuff like that AND tell the parents.

The soaked pants really bothers me. That is just wrong to me. And to give excuses for it. Nope, I would be pulling her out. 

by Platinum Member on Oct. 12, 2009 at 8:51 PM

 I thought if a child was hurt they had to make an incident report?  I find it hard to believe no one noticed a bloody nose and scratches on the face.  I would be very leery of the daycare too!

by on Oct. 12, 2009 at 8:58 PM

Since school at that age is really unneccassary...I would just pull her out.

I haven't had any issues with preschool, but my children didn't start that early.

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