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Since when does a three year old HAVE to know their colors? Help....

Posted by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:34 PM
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Yesterday I took my son to the Ped for his three year checkup.  I have been going to this Ped since my son was born and I trust him completly he is very thorough however when checking the milestone list yesterday he is refering us to get evaluated from special childrens clinic.  My son is not potty trained yet, he does not know his colors (which was a minor minor concern for me) he doesn't count or do his alphabet and he can color circles but nothing more.   For these reasons the Dr feels he is not up to par.   I feel he is very smart.  He uses lots of words and in complete sentences.  I work with him on the alphabet and colors and coloring but as a lot of boys are at this age his attention span is short.  My son that is 10 1/2 months younger than him is acctually a little ahead of him and my daughter who is 4 1/2 knew most of this by age three.  My older daughter and third son both LOVE books my three year old is just now enjoying a book so I think that has a lot to do with it.  He doesn't like to sit and watch learning videos either, he would rather play.  He interacts with others, and I do not feel like he is slow or autistic or anything.  Do you think the Ped is over reacting?  I can see sending a child at age 4 lacking this but 3?  He just turned 3 Nov 5.  We are just starting potty training since I was pregnant and just had a 4th.  Do I just get the evaluation or not.  This is the kind of Ped if you do not follow up with what he sayd he will kick you out.  And he is a good Dr knows your kids by name even if you ran into him outside of the office.  I am feeling confused because I just feel he is a normal 3 year old boy and boys are generally slower than girls!

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by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:37 PM

No I think the Dr has his best interests in mind. My son is 2.5 and has known his whole alphabet and cant count to 20 since he was 2. he is potty trained ( still working on pooping in the toilet but everythign else he has mastered) He knows alot of colors and shapes.

Have you tried working with your son on those things?

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by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:38 PM

I'm all for early intervention. I'd get the evaluation. If you don't think he's behind then there is nothing to worry about. Did you put potty training on hold with him because you're pregnant? Maybe you should slow down on the baby-making. I mean he's 3 and doesn't know his alphabet or colors and isn't potty-trained.

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by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:38 PM

Honestly, I would get the evaluation. That does sound as if he may be slightly delayed. Maybe just distracted, but an evaluation would give you a better idea and peace of mind, or a plan. My DD will be 3 in January. She is potty trained except away from the house because she is terrified of public toilets. She has known all her colors since just after turning 2. She can fill in blanks in the alphabet if you sing...but all kids are different. I just know if he were my kiddo I'd go. Can't hurt right?

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by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:39 PM

Truthfully, I think your ped is right. He does sound a little behind to me too. I think that it wouldn't hurt to have him evaluated, if there is nothing wrong you shouldn't worry about it too much, but if there is, better to know sooner than later.

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by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:40 PM

Even though all kids delevop at different rates, what harm could come out of an eval? Maybe there is an underlying issue or something. Drs just dont refer patients to specialists for shits & giggles b/c we all know how long it can take to get into a specialist.


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by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:40 PM

If you want to keep your doc then go get the evaluation. That's sucky that he's the type who'll stop treating his patients if they don't do what he says though.

by Platinum Member on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:42 PM

I would get the evalution.  All of these things together concern me.  My son is 2, has known the alphabet since he turned 1 and could count to 20 at 18 months.  He can also recognize most letters.  I'm not worried about him not knowing colors since he's not interested but he knows all of these other things already as does the little girl I babysit who is also 2.

Besides, then you will KNOW for sure if there is something to worry about?  Otherwise I know it would always be in the back of my mind!


by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:43 PM

My oldest son is 4 and he wasn't potty trained till he was 3 1/2. I didn't push him. And when he felt he was ready to use the potty he did! Guess what he went balls to the wall and stopped using nighttime diapers as well that same week!

Hes just now learning his ABC's and counting. Last week was the first time he wrote his name and he still doesnt know how to spell it.  Kids learn and do things at their own rate. I'm not a pusher when it come to those milestones, cause they will do them when they are good and ready. When they do its awesome!

by Silver Member on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:44 PM

 You know it's funny but I don't know what age they should know that stuff.  What I do know is that they're not going to get a medal for knowing it at an early age & no one's going to care in 10 years.  I mean it's not like he's in Preschool so why should he know beforehand.  And they don't even teach some of that stuff in Preschool.

My son is 3 & has known since he was 2 his ABC's & 123's, but it wasn't until a few months ago he could sing the songs.  He does know his colors & potty-trained at 37 months when he was ready  Practically did it himself, same with pooping & nighttime training which I didn't do.  Just told me he wanted to use the potty & didn't want his diapers anymore.  And even though I'm proud as heck about it in the long run it means nothing.  His Ped didn't even ask.  She used to do things at his other visits to make sure he was on track as far as dexterity & such.

What helped my son was those Melissa & Doug puzzles.  I bought him the see inside kind for the Alphabet & Numbers.  He was able to put those together & learn them by 2

You know your child better than the doctor & if you think he needs an evaluation then go ahead.  BUT if your child shows no interest in learning or is like mine & isn't receptive to you actually working one on one with him then you'll need to find his learning style.  My son likes to figure out stuff on his own.  And if you're not trying to teach him then it's not like he's behind, but if you've been trying & he's interested but still doesn't get it then there's a problem.  Plus, if your doctor is so great he wouldn't be browbeating you into taking your son in for an eval.  My son had Occupational Therapy that I eventually stopped because he wasn't learning anything because of his personality & learning style.  Within a couple of months he caught up & surpassed, and is smart as a whip. :)


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by on Nov. 12, 2009 at 5:46 PM

My daughter knew everything by 2 also and was potty trained by 2 1/2 Everyone just kept saying he is a boy but now that the 3rd child is catching up to teh 2nd or surpassing him I am a little concerned but I wasn't overly so.  I still work with them everyday.  :)

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