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OCD in toddler?

Posted by on Dec. 1, 2009 at 1:34 AM
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My husband's aunt has OCD major bad.  She washes everything, spends hours in the bathroom organizers everything.

My two year old has always been a little weired about things, but now he has figured out how to turn on the sink and get soap, he wants to wash his hands all day.  I think its pretty normal, but my husband is extremely concerned he may be showing the first signs of OCD. 

Have you known of a child this young displaying signs?  Or do you think his behavior is normal two year old stuff? 

Here is things he will do...

Arrange his food on his plate.  He has been doing this as long as I can remember.

Washes hands A LOT (but has just recently figured out how the sink works)

He will take all his blankets from his room to the living room and try to lay them out exactly flat.  If its folded just a little often he will pull a huge tantrum until I fix it. 

Has a bedtime ritual...  But its pretty normal.

I'm sure there is more, but I can't think of much.  He is super advanced for his age.  He is specific about how he sings songs, and loves to break dance lol and gets mad if I get up to do it with him because I 'do it wrong'.  Again, I think 2 year old stuff, but my hubby, because he has seen his aunt struggle so much is worried its more. 

 

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armywife2009101
by on Dec. 1, 2009 at 1:37 AM

My husband was like this when he was a toddler. He pretty much grew out of it by time he was 7 or 8. He is still kinda weird about things having to be arranged from smallest to largest but its nothing major.

shoegirl01
by on Dec. 1, 2009 at 1:40 AM

LOL, I'm a little OCD about things with cemetry as well.  I had post pardem OCD after having the baby (If you even have a little ocd in ya, your chances of coming out with it is major).  But I'm not crazy, just a big planner.  Loving schedules and plans.  I don't do crazy washing my hands, don't obsessivly clean my house etc.

Quoting armywife2009101:

My husband was like this when he was a toddler. He pretty much grew out of it by time he was 7 or 8. He is still kinda weird about things having to be arranged from smallest to largest but its nothing major.


 

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eeyoreplus4
by on Dec. 1, 2009 at 1:42 AM

My 3 year old puts all of her toys away in the exact order that I do. Even turning the handles out on her play stove. DH says we are both OCD :)~


crystalclark
by on Dec. 1, 2009 at 1:48 AM

Well, I have OCD and my dd is showing signs of it. She has to have her my little ponies stacked a certain way before bed, and she does the exact same thing with her blankets. She cant stand change, and everything has to be in order. The difference is, is that I knew to look for this she is 3, and so we just break the chain of having everything in order and it seems to work. Like I took all her ponies and put them up in her tote, which we use as a toybox. I just really try to change things around so that she doesnt get used to everything being a certain way. Good luck, its not an easy thing to deal with, but since I have grown up with it, and know how to control my own ocd, than its made it easier.

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mamakenzi
by on Dec. 1, 2009 at 1:51 AM

My normal 2 year old does all of those things, I talked to the pedi about it and she said it was normal behavior.

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xChasingxAmyx
by on Dec. 1, 2009 at 6:50 AM

 Sounds like normal behavior to me!

angie2719
by on Dec. 1, 2009 at 8:51 AM

My son is 3 but developmentally he is a year behind. He has a chromosomal abnormality known as short arm 18p deletion and he has "obssesive characteristics". His genetic specialist doesn't want to give any labels thus far, and he has begun speech and occupational therapy to help with some behaviors.  Here is a list of my son's obssesive tendancies:

-He has to have all doors closed at all times, he has a fit if a door is open and spends lots of time going back to make sure they are still closed.

-All of his blankets have to be laying flat, one little wrinkle or bulge will cause tantrums.

-He lines up all his toy cars in a line and they can't be moved even a millimeter.

-Bedtime routine must be at 8:30 every night; bubble bath,dry off, diaper, nose cleaner(he doesn't need this done but insists on it), Q-tips for the ears, Then rub vapor rub on his chest(doesn't need  it but insists on it), then he has to hand me his blanky(i can't get it myself) he then has to kiss everything goodnight(the light, the table, the couch, pretty much everything in the living room) then he will get in my lap and i have to kiss all of his body parts goodnight(eyes,nose,mouth,ears,hair, each finger then hands, arms, legs and toes) If i do any step out of order he melts down for hours!

-He will only use 1 cup, 1 fork, 1 spoon, 1 plate and 1 bowl, if its different he melts down and won't eat.

-He doesn't like normal household things to be moved and spends tons of time putting them in proper places(i mean the exact spot he has seen them before, to the millimeter)

Those are just some of his obssesions and it is so hard to handle a child with such a problem, since the meltdowns last for hours and the constant need to keep everything the same is overwhelming. He has been showing improvement with therapy but nothing significant. The tantrums are getting better and shorter, but he still has his obssessions.


themountainmama
by on Dec. 1, 2009 at 9:12 AM

This sounds normal to me.  It sounds like he is learning about cause and effect with the hand washing or maybe sensory seeking.  He's also aware of the impact he can make in his environment by smoothing his blanket.  With his food, he is aware of the different tastes and textures.  I think he is creating structure and organization in his little world.  I don't at all think it is a sign of OCD.  I do have a teen son with OCD; it is just maddening sometimes!  Hope your concerns turn out to me a developmental milestone and nothing more.  

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