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Help me with dd!!! Need advice ((new to the group))

Posted by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:18 PM
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So my dd will be 7 in a few months and yesterday she had a CRAZY moment. We were at walmart and she was all over the place so I asked her nicely about 10 times please stop, please come here,Please don't do that and she did not stop! I went down to eye level and told her lets go. She did not want to move and was sticking out her tongue and mocking me. I was so mad I told her she was not going to the school party for Christmas and she slap me so I tried to grab her and she was kick and plussing and SCREAM everyone was looking at me like I was abusing her. So in one of those I grab her by the hair and tried to pick her up to carry her to the car and leave. Well a cop stop me and all .. After explaining to her what happen she just let us go. This is not the first time she has done this. Last time I punished her and I feel like I lose control of her.Any advice??

Also I told her she will have no party at school and no Christmas. Do you think this is to much to take away from her? She is punished in her room with no toys or tv.

Should I take her to see a Dr?

by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:18 PM
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kissyfur29
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:21 PM

 In all honesty I think it was kinda normal. i woould leave her home the next time you go to the store. I realize that maybe a little difficult but it worked for my dd when she did that to me. You could try taking her to a dr but I am not sure what they could do to help you out. Thye might have her tested for add or adhd.Usually even pretty normal kids act out.I am sorry I couldn't be of much help.

Littlebaer
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:24 PM

I think what you took away was fine she disrespeted you. I would also try a time out the next time she does this take her to your car and make her sit there until she is ready to behave then go back into the store with her. if she does it again tell her she will have privaliges taken away. I wouldn't grab her by her hair that wasn't a good way to handle the situation but don't worry everyone makes mistakes! so i hope that helps! hugs!

Daynaof3
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:24 PM

I would suggest that you do bring her to the doctor. They will give you a referral to a child therapist. I have a question for you though, does your daughter have asthma? If so, does she take any meds for it?

Hisbabymama0309
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:29 PM

No,  she doesn't take meds for nothing and she is a straight A student.

Quoting Daynaof3:

I would suggest that you do bring her to the doctor. They will give you a referral to a child therapist. I have a question for you though, does your daughter have asthma? If so, does she take any meds for it?


hailnbray
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:33 PM

 i personal dont agree with taking away special things like parties or holidays. she messed up yes, she should be delt with but things that chirstmas is way bigger then a fit at the store. its just mean. with that being said we try not to use any form of negitive. try rewarding her when she makes it through the store. before u leave the house and walk into the store say if u can follow the directions u can pick a place to eat lunch or we canmake cupcakes when we get home or whatever it is she likes. if she still acts up u just leave. if u have to leave her home when u go places. she will realize that u mean what u say

My daughter has autism but she can laugh, cry, and love just like yours. she may never dress herself but she can go to college and become a dr.  she may never make friends her own age but shes my friend for life. and please if u ever get the chance to meet my daughter, stop looking at her like shes a brat, she cant help her stairs or attitudes u can help urs. get to close u might get bit but it wont give u autism. do yourself a favor look it up. 


 

Mama4times
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:42 PM

Taking away Christmas is too harsh, but I don't see anything wrong with taking away the party.


canthaveboys1
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:47 PM

Well first welcome to the group! I have 4 daughters, 2 have passed this stage, 1 is in it now. I am a spanking kind of mom, so that is how I handle it. I dont have to spank very often because my kids know that I am not playing around.

To be honest I would not take Christmas away, but the party yes I would. I would ground her to her room for a week. I have found that being consistent is what works best and dont ever threaten a punishment and than not follow through with it.

Good Luck to you! 

Hisbabymama0309
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:54 PM

Okay so should I let her miss the day off school or just make her go in her uniform (everyone else will be in christmas dress) and ask her teacher to send her to another class?

Quoting canthaveboys1:

Well first welcome to the group! I have 4 daughters, 2 have passed this stage, 1 is in it now. I am a spanking kind of mom, so that is how I handle it. I dont have to spank very often because my kids know that I am not playing around.

To be honest I would not take Christmas away, but the party yes I would. I would ground her to her room for a week. I have found that being consistent is what works best and dont ever threaten a punishment and than not follow through with it.

Good Luck to you! 


canthaveboys1
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 1:59 PM


Quoting Hisbabymama0309:

Okay so should I let her miss the day off school or just make her go in her uniform (everyone else will be in christmas dress) and ask her teacher to send her to another class?

Quoting canthaveboys1:

Well first welcome to the group! I have 4 daughters, 2 have passed this stage, 1 is in it now. I am a spanking kind of mom, so that is how I handle it. I dont have to spank very often because my kids know that I am not playing around.

To be honest I would not take Christmas away, but the party yes I would. I would ground her to her room for a week. I have found that being consistent is what works best and dont ever threaten a punishment and than not follow through with it.

Good Luck to you! 

 

I would send her in uniform, and pick her up right before the party starts.

DanaMiller1970
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 2:04 PM

U may agree with me or not but I am a firm believer that if a child acts out like that in public and they don't listen to u when u politely ask them to stop after a couple times that it is time for a swat on the butt.  I don't beat the heck out of the child but to me as long as u don't leave a mark and really hurt them u will be all right.  Just enough to get their attention and then that is when u also inform them of any further punishment that will happen when they get home as far as things taken away or early bed time whatever the case may be if there is any further acting out that isn't appropriate for that place and time.  I hope this helps u.  I never was afraid to swat our son who is now 11 if he had it coming no matter who was around.  If someone looked at me I would just simply say "What, I am not killing my child. Just simply letting him know his behavior isn't going to be accepted" and go on my merry way.

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