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How am I going to get through this womans head!?

Posted by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 3:58 PM
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My mother in law is constantly doing and saying stuff to get to me, I try not to let her get to me most of the time but when my kids are involved it's a different story. she is jealous of my family, if my mom and dad do something for my kids my in laws have to do something bigger and better. I let my 4 year old daughter call my mother in law the other day...(I put it on speaker phone) my for year old said " you messed up my toes cuz u painted them" my M.I.L. say's "your mommy is mad because I painted your toes?" daughter says "yeah" (which I am not mad) My M.I.L. says "o well, it's okay, you'll be fine, you don't have to listen to that. any normal person would say, we better not do that again. they constantly go against my rules, if my daughter asks them to spend the night and I say no, they tell her "I don't care if you spend the night but your mommy won't let you" I am constantly complaining to my boyfriend about them, half the time he just gets so aggravated with me and says 'what do you want me to do? he has said something to them more than once about everything in the past, they just don't listen. does anyone have any idea's to put this behavior to a stop.... (my 4 year old doesn't listen to me when the in laws are around either, when I punish her in front of them thay just laugh. My kids are 4yrs., 2yrs. and 8 months old

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mamakenzi
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 4:01 PM

I'm sorry, but I don't see what's so wrong with what your MIL has said. 

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taurus86
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 4:04 PM


Quoting mamakenzi:

I'm sorry, but I don't see what's so wrong with what your MIL has said. 


I guess I didn't add everything. she  always go's against  the rules I have for my kids. it's just a huge mess.

coolestmomeva
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 4:04 PM


Quoting mamakenzi:

I'm sorry, but I don't see what's so wrong with what your MIL has said. 


me neither....dont sweat the small stuff....

alwaysyoung
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 4:07 PM

Some stuff I agree with and some stuff I don't. Only have you bf communicate with her if she bugs you that much.

taurus86
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 4:08 PM


Quoting coolestmomeva:
I try not to but it's been going on for to long.... i'm fed up


Quoting mamakenzi:

I'm sorry, but I don't see what's so wrong with what your MIL has said. 


me neither....dont sweat the small stuff....


heatherb1386
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 4:22 PM

 Not quite sure about the whole toe painting thing. But if they are going against your rules, if it were me, I would have them come over and sit down and the four of us have a long talk about the things that we think are important to us in rasing our own children. Let them know what you don't approve of without being offensive. Little things should be okay, but if your kids get to the point that they don't listen to you when your in laws are around, let them know that they have to understand that certain things just won't fly and when punishment is necessary, it isn't effective if grandma and grandpa just laugh. Tell them the kids have to understand it is serious, and them snickering just makes it seem like it's okay. That's just what I would do in that situation.

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taurus86
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 4:25 PM

Thank you! the talk sounds like a good idea

Quoting heatherb1386:

 Not quite sure about the whole toe painting thing. But if they are going against your rules, if it were me, I would have them come over and sit down and the four of us have a long talk about the things that we think are important to us in rasing our own children. Let them know what you don't approve of without being offensive. Little things should be okay, but if your kids get to the point that they don't listen to you when your in laws are around, let them know that they have to understand that certain things just won't fly and when punishment is necessary, it isn't effective if grandma and grandpa just laugh. Tell them the kids have to understand it is serious, and them snickering just makes it seem like it's okay. That's just what I would do in that situation.


NO1LKME3
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 4:26 PM

You sound a little jealous of your children's relationship with your children's grandmother.  Oh, and by the way if he is your boyfriend she is NOT your MIL.

 

canthaveboys1
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 4:32 PM

Well grandparents always spoil grandkids, its like some unwritten rule somewhere. I think your blowing it out of proportion. I also think that your bf doesnt want to be in the middle of it.

I totally get what you are saying, but I have learned to tell my boyfriends mom what MY rules are and she needs to abide by them. I do that because my bf doesnt want to be in the middle cause he is a mamas boy. She still spoils the crap out of my kids, but she would never put them in harms way.

She still does things that bug me, but I have somehow dealt with them as they happen. Good Luck to you! 

taurus86
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 4:47 PM


Quoting NO1LKME3:

You sound a little jealous of your children's relationship with your children's grandmother.  Oh, and by the way if he is your boyfriend she is NOT your MIL.

 

No not jealous of them, I just want my kids to listen to me and they are constantly going against my rules.... I have been with him for 7 years so that's why I consider them my inlaws

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