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5 yr old touching inappropriately

Posted by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 8:02 PM
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Lost and needing some help fast!  My son had these two neighborhood girls he played with from up the street. I use to watch these girls until I noticed a repetitive play pattern of playing  Mommy and Daddy with my son. I noticed the older girl always insisting on closeing my sons bedroom door to play, and even caught her ontop of my son. I put an end to it after repeatedly setting rules that weren't follwed by the girls. The girls were no longer allowed at my house. Now my nephew who is the same age as my son has been talking pretty vulgur to my son talking about always wanting to play the nasty. I only know of this because my older newphew who is 8 yrs old tells me that that's why his brother always wants to play in the closet. Well they were caught several months back with their pants down. which really upsets me only because my sister allows them to watch whatever they want. And i know that their father insists on subcscribing to the adult channel. So God only knows what they are watching while unsupervised. So now their  is my neice that whenever we are over visiting she insists to always drag my son upstairs, I was curious as to what she wanted to do alone so i followed them only to hear her telling my son to undress and lay in bed. I quickly burst right in and left, only after telling her mother that if she couldn't play right then we wont be over anymore. I dont understand why these kids are playing and acting the way they do. I was told by a friend that it's probably because of what they see from their parents. I know my sister in law is a very sexual person and has a box loaded of pornography that her and her husband watches and she is very bad mouthed. That they learn it from someone. I've pulled myself from all these people cause i cant simply let my son be around it. I was molested as a child and I know the hurt it caused and still does. I know that my son is 5 and boys will be curious but I know for a fact that he has never watched anything inappropriate, he has never walked in on my husband and I. My husband and I talk to each other with respect. I like to think i'm a very responsible mother my son doesnt' watch anything that is inappropriate, If i think their might be a slight scene of intamacy, you can bet that it will be changed. He knows that when mommy and daddy kiss it's because that's daddy's way of telling mommy he loves me, and that only adults do it.

I guess it's always been in the back of my mind that he might repeat what he had done to him. Today it has =( My sister was over visiting and my sister caught my son touching my 2 yr old nephews privates. They had only been in my sons bedroom for 5 min supposidly picking out a truck to play with. I'm hurt and ashamed of what happened. I really dont know what to do or how to talk to my son. Is this just curiosity? How do I put an end to it!

by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 8:02 PM
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sageinca
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 8:12 PM

Well, I think this is something that needs to be handled carefully and Im not sure how I would even handle this. First talk to your husband and see what he says. Im sure there is something online about this. Research it. I would not make a real big deal about it with him, but talk with him and explain that we do not touch other people there.

Good Luck, that's a tough one.

kat127
by on Dec. 14, 2009 at 9:24 PM

i agree i work at a daycare n this happens a lot we are taught not to make a big deal cuz thy will do it more also this is a natural stage in their life i know u dont want to herar that but its true i hate to hear that with my son but he stopped

Quoting sageinca:

Well, I think this is something that needs to be handled carefully and Im not sure how I would even handle this. First talk to your husband and see what he says. Im sure there is something online about this. Research it. I would not make a real big deal about it with him, but talk with him and explain that we do not touch other people there.

Good Luck, that's a tough one.


mamaslilpunkin
by Bronze Member on Dec. 14, 2009 at 9:33 PM

 I think young children are just naturally curious but they still need to know that certain parts of their bodies are private(I tell my 6 year old "the parts that you bathing suit covers").I also tell my dd to trust her conscience,when "you get that uh-oh,this doesn't really feel right to me"feeling,its because you're doing something your not supposed to/someone is doing something to you and you need to tell mommy.

Lilypie
momoftwins240
by on Dec. 15, 2009 at 12:40 PM

In my opinion, something is going on with these kids that is inappropriate.  They are learning this somewhere.  Maybe some of it comes from TV but not the indepth things you are describing here.  I'd call CPS and tell them what you know about these kid's behavior and get them go to check things out in their homes.  I bet they are being sexually abused either by their parent(s) or by an older relative. 

brantonsmom
by on Dec. 15, 2009 at 12:57 PM
A few weeks ago my 3yr old pinched my husbands man area and thn tried to touch me, I think the reason for my hubby was that that part is about eye level with my son and my hubby has shorts on and my son noticed something there so he touched it, and then thought my hubbys reaction was funny so he decided to do it to mommy. So I got down eye level with him and told him that he was not to touch those areas because they are mommy and daddys private areas and that he has private areas too and if anyone touches his private areas to tell mommy and daddy

ShortMommytobe
by on Dec. 15, 2009 at 1:19 PM

Im so sorry mama i know this must be hard, ive been screwed up about sex my whole life and i dont want it to affect my daughter or my future children. I was forced to touch my female cousin from age 6 until about 12 and she touched me as well, one of those was in the church bathroom! I would definitely talk to your husband, and me being me i would have confronted my sister in law  lol hope everything works out for you. good luck

xChasingxAmyx
by on Dec. 15, 2009 at 1:25 PM

This.

Quoting sageinca:

Well, I think this is something that needs to be handled carefully and Im not sure how I would even handle this. First talk to your husband and see what he says. Im sure there is something online about this. Research it. I would not make a real big deal about it with him, but talk with him and explain that we do not touch other people there.

Good Luck, that's a tough one.


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