I don't like my wedding/engagement ring. It looks just like my mother's and I don't even like the style. I THOUGHT we were going to pick something out together, but I'd told him how much I wanted a Claddagh ring as my wedding ring since I'm very proud of my Irish heritage Just in case he did surprise me.
Well, I recently won a claddagh ring that's actually styled to be a wedding ring and I don't know what to do... It's killing me.
Maybe this sounds really dumb, but I'm genuinly worried. I don't want to hurt his feelings but I hate this ring. I couldn't even wear it for the longest time because it stands up so far and I kept scratching Turtle!
This is what my ring looks like
Here's what I won/ basically what i wanted to begin with:
The one i got has an amethyst in it.
**and now i feel bad cause the original is around 450...
Thats a rough deal. I wouldnt tell my s/o. I think it would hurt his feelings.
"Part of why I love you, my dear, is that we can be honest." (he thinks: uhoh, so what did I do now?) "The ring isn't really the best for me. I really hate to bring this up, because you gave it to me, and I value it because of this. But it catches on things. I have this other ring that I really like and that doesn't catch on things. Would you mind terribly, would you be hurt, if...." and so forth.
I would just tell him you're going to wear it sometimes in place of the ring. You don't have to tell him that you don't like your other ring... tell him you want to save your other ring for your daughter, or something... which isn't a bad idea, really. I saved our first ring (I didn't like it much, either) for DD. Mine now is gorgeous, and hubs understands that I just love picking out my own ring.
Idk what i would do. an engagement ring is special especially if he picked it out himself. that means he wanted to surprise you not you know exactly when and what ya know? It probably means alot to him and I would leave it at that. you will probably grow to love it. and saying I hate it would probably upset him!
That would be SO wrong - and an incredibly horrible and deceitful way to start a marriage. If you truly don't think you can live with it, find the kindest way to express your feelings. You will have it for life; it should be something you really love rather than something that upsets you every time you look at it. Eventually you'll stop wearing it; that wouldn't be right either. And then propose that you do as agreed and pick one out together. Good luck.
Quoting AM-BRAT:
You could "lose" it.
Yeah, this sounds great and you can keep the ring you don't like and maybe wear that on a chain around your neck for the special friendship you have between you two?...
Quoting Bmat:
"Part of why I love you, my dear, is that we can be honest." (he thinks: uhoh, so what did I do now?) "The ring isn't really the best for me. I really hate to bring this up, because you gave it to me, and I value it because of this. But it catches on things. I have this other ring that I really like and that doesn't catch on things. Would you mind terribly, would you be hurt, if...." and so forth.
what's the best way to...
- MrsLavender
on Mar. 16, 2010 at 11:06 AM