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Is Child Obesity Child Abuse?

Posted by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 1:40 PM
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A South Carolina woman was charged with criminal neglect when her 14 year old son reached a shocking 555 pounds.  I am sure that many of you can understand the charge because the example is so egregious.  But how do we know this is really the mother’s fault?  And if we do decide to charge parents of obese kids with child abuse, where do we draw the line?

As a Pediatrician and Child Obesity Expert, I see a wide range of overweight children.  Some patients are simply ten pounds overweight while others are more than one hundred pounds overweight.  How do you decide who to charge with criminal neglect?

Many of the parents of my morbidly obese patients have been struggling (unsuccessfully) to keep their kids’ weights down.  They beg.  They plead.  They keep junk food out of the house.  They lock their refrigerators.  Yet these kids still manage to gain access to food.

It is somewhat easier to protect a younger child.  But even at school, a kid can overeat.  All a child has to do is cry that he is hungry and the lunch aides will serve him a second (or even a third) helping.  And many a heavy child has begged their thinner classmates for some of their lunch.  At the many parties thrown in class (for birthdays, holidays, and “special” days), these kids try to eat as many servings as possible.  Even worse, a Mom may give her daughter some money to buy a turkey sandwich and never know that she used it to buy French fries and cookies instead.  Parents have very little control over what their kids are eating out of the house.

Socioeconomic factors also play a role in the development of child obesity.  I will admit, my family and I ate at McDonald’s last month during a long car trip and I was shocked at how little it cost.  My family of four ate for less than $15.  It’s no wonder that families with little money often opt for this cheap, but unhealthy, option.

Obesity rates are also affected by environmental factors, like access to playgrounds and parks.  Many families live in unsafe areas where kids can’t simply go outside to play.  These children are often kept indoors for their own safety.  And what do these kids do while cooped up in the house?  Eat and watch television, more risk factors for weight gain.  How can we blame parents for these inequities?

Some kids are genetically predisposed for obesity.  While less than 10% of all cases of child obesity are due to known genetic defects, it does happen.  Some individuals are deficient (or resistant to) the effects of a protein called leptin.  Leptin is what tells our brain that we are full and no longer need to eat.  Mice studies prove that mice with leptin defects become obese, sometimes to the point of eating themselves to death!  These mice will eat until they become sick… and then they eat some more.

Some obese individuals have been found to have these same leptin defects.  Clearly, obesity in these kids cannot be their parents’ fault.  It is possible that genetic defects are responsible for more cases of child obesity than we realize because we haven’t yet discovered the responsible genes.  I would hate to put a mother in jail or separate a family only to find out a few years later that the child suffers from a previously unheard of genetic defect.  There is simply no way to know for sure whether a child is obese because of a parent’s neglect or some genetic predisposition.

This is not simply conjecture.  A family in Britain was on a Social Service’s watch list, at risk for losing their children, due to their kids’ weights.  Luckily, Dr. Sadaf Forooqi discovered a gene deletion that left these kids unresponsive to leptin, causing them to live in constant hunger.  Dr. Forooqi spoke to authorities and Social Services dropped the investigation.  Had Dr. Forooqi not made that discovery in time, this family would have been devastated for no reason!

So let’s go back to our initial example of the 555 pound South Carolina teen, Alexander Draper.  His mother, Jerri Gray lost custody of her son and is being charged with criminal neglect. Gray is facing 15 years on two felony counts, the first U.S. felony case involving childhood obesity, said her lawyer, Grant Varner.  Could Alexander suffer from an unknown genetic abnormality?  Are we sure that he can control his hunger in a normal way?  Alexander Draper hasn’t even been tested for genetic causes of obesity, according to Varner.  How can we justify putting this woman in jail for something that may not be her fault?  We don’t know what goes on in that house.  It is possible that the problem lies within Alexander’s DNA.  And how can we punish his mother for that?

Now I am not saying that all parents are blameless.  It is horrifying to see parents feeding obese children unhealthy foods and parents must be responsibility for keeping their kids as healthy as possible.  I am just not sure that jail is the answer.

by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 1:40 PM
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by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 1:41 PM

Yes, it should be, without a doubt. The only exception should be medical reasons, which contrary to popular belief (on here it seems anyway, lol) is very rare!

by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 1:46 PM

I believe it is. Everyone knows that frozen, processed and fast foods are not healthy and if you make a concious choice to feed that too your children on a regular basis then it is neglect. Unfortunately though it's not just parents doing this it's the schools doing it too.

I don't know what to say in this case.. But i do know that something needs serious change

by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 1:58 PM

 I think that there are more criminals that they need to be out after for more serious things.

I am not sure how I feel about this being a "criminal act" I will think about it and get back to you.

by on Apr. 1, 2010 at 3:19 PM
I think it's incredibly difficult to draw that line between criminal neglect/abuse and all the factors you listed above. I do think in the case of the 555 lb 14 yo that it's abuse, but jail isn't the answer. Instead, there should be court-ordered family counseling, and if no improvement is shown or no effort toward permanent change is made, THEN jail can be considered.
by on Apr. 2, 2010 at 3:44 PM

I don't think all cases are the same. I have an overweight step daughter. At our home we try to give her healthy choices, but its hard when she goes to her mom's house where she is given doughnuts and chocolate milk for breakfast., fried foods, pork ect.  Its a constant battle. The mom is obese, and so she feeds her child what she eats. We have taken her to the Dr. and have told her that she needs to watch what she eats, because the Dr.'s next concern is that she will develop diabetes. We monitor her at our house, but what can you do when only one parent is on board? 

by on Apr. 2, 2010 at 3:46 PM

I think it is a form of neglect maybe not "abuse" though. Either way it sucks! Those parents should be ashamed.

by on Apr. 2, 2010 at 3:52 PM

Quoting mommy22boyz357:

Yes, it should be, without a doubt. The only exception should be medical reasons, which contrary to popular belief (on here it seems anyway, lol) is very rare!


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by Amber on Apr. 2, 2010 at 3:57 PM

I do think parents are responsible.

There are rare cases where there seems to be NO reason, even medical, for severe obesity.

I also think, in a case where a 14 yo hits over 500 lbs, it shouldda been addressed LONG before that.


by Amber on Apr. 2, 2010 at 3:58 PM

I also feel that junk and laziness are too widely accepted, and almost EXPECTED for young kids.


by on Apr. 2, 2010 at 4:06 PM

I think it depends on the case. my niece is 4 and weighs around 60. she is a very chunky little girl, but her mom keeps her on a strict diet and she is still a big girl. at 18 months she was 45 lbs.  Dns nutritionist said that it may simply be a thyroid problem so it can be medically treated. I would not call her a child abuser. But in many cases I know parents are overfeeding unhealthy stuff, but at least the child is being fed, and is not starved. The parents should have to attend nutrition classes, not jail time for feeding their kids.

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