After about 8 weeks my families CPS case was finally closed! I was really happy to receive the letter the other day and I know it takes a lot of weight of off my DH. Now that the case is closed I have a few thoughts running through my head and I'm wondering how any one else would cope with this situation.
Long story short: My parents accused my DH of either molesting or messing with my 3 (almost 4) year old daughter. I wasn't one of those people who automatically defended DH bc he was my husband. I took DD to the doctor and everything checked out there. After talking with my parents I learned the reason for their concern was DD's behavior. I never thought anything happened but being a good and paranoid mother I still kept an eye out. I felt guilty for doing that but I know DH understands. Anyway, after being questioned and investigated by two detectives, two CPS caseworkers and a nurse they said they didn't see anything strange about her behavior and they closed the case on the CPS side of things as well as the legal side of things.
Naturally, my DH and I were extremely upset when all of this started. After some time went by we cooled off but, naturally, DH wants absolutely nothing to do with my parents. I can't say I blame him either. In the end, the CPS call my parents made was a follow up on a threat they made us. At first DH was so mad he thought my DD should have nothing to do with them. He didn't want them filling her head with all kinds of things and put things that aren't true in her head. Which, they had actually done unknowingly by asking her specific questions that she took as them telling her something had happened and started repeated these things. He cooled off and I talked to him and we both agreed that we did want my parents to be part of my DD's life. They are a very big part of her life. He's the only dad she's ever known and they both love each other very much. He's always told me he wants me to have a relationship with them as well.
But I don't know how to handle this. I'm still really pissed at my parents but I don't know if I could cut them out of my life completely. I'm starting to worry bc DH got REALLY mad the other day bc I told him I was going to call my mom and tell her if she wanted to skype DD she could but not to text bc i was out of messages. He got really mad that I even brought up the idea of talking to them, which I haven't done since CPS came. I think it's going to be a lot harder to get a relationship going at all with everything that has happened. I don't know what to do and keep thinking about how hard family get togethers and holidays will be now. I didn't think it was a big deal to call her and tell her to get on the computer. I had no intention of having a conversation with her. It's just really hard bc I know DH was really hurt by all this and I was too. I also know that they are my parents and I do love them, even if I'm really mad right now.. I don't know what to do. I'm not sure how to handle DH getting upset and how far or how fast to have this relationship with my parents progress..
My Silly Bean!!