I'm at a loss. I'm trying to figure out how to handle this and how to put into words how I feel. To make a very long story short I have issues with my mil. We used to get along great and then DH and I had kids. She thinks that just cause she's a grandma she can do what she wants when she wants with the kids. Now I'm not talking about normal grandmother behavior. She will completely go ingore what anyone tells her, for example ds cannot have milk so she tries to give him ice cream.
Anyways, ds 1st birthday is coming up. Since I'm the mom I already have it planned, and have for months. The invites have already been sent out and should be getting to people either Saturday or Monday. Now my mil has not asked about ds birthday party, the only thing she has asked is what they gave dd for her birthday because they are going to give the same thing to ds for his. Well, I just found out that she is telling family that ds's birthday party will be at her house. For dd's 1st birthday party she even sent invites to people without asking my input or DH's, we did talk to her about this but it apparently didn't sink in.
I'm at a loss about what to do. I don't think it will make any difference if DH talks to her or not. She isn't mentally stable and is on meds but I don't think that they are working. But she wants to act like everything is normal and no body is allowed to talk about her mental issues.
Oh no. I don't know what to do other than not let the children be around her on their own. About the parties, if she wants to have a party at her house, it may work out OK as long as it isn't the same day that you invited people for. For people who would be invited to both, let them pick which to come to. I'd call to find out. It is a mess, but maybe you can make it work out OK.
I agree, I wouldn't let her be alone with the kids. If she has a mental illness she can't help how she acts. I mean, I can imagine how infuriating it must be but everyone must know she's acting bizarre. I would let your husband talk to her and figure out who she invited to "her" party. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Good luck!
She's NEVER alone with the kids. If she tries to take one out of the room I follow. I don't care if she doesn't like or anyone else. I don't trust her. While I don't think she'd hurt the kids you never really know and I wouldn't want her to traumatize the kids cause she did something to herself infront of them.
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on Sep. 30, 2011 at 10:34 PM