AND now my FIL isn't coming to see DD because my 21 yr old SIL just announced she's pregnant again (she has a 5 yr old) and he's too mad to meet his new grandbaby. I understood him not coming at first because DH "forgot" to call & let him know she was born. Then he was filming (he's a regular extra in several shows). But now he can't come because he's mad SIL got knocked up again by her loser BF?
So upset! I'd take her to them but she despises her car seat & screams bloody murder the whole time.
When Dd was born we went there and he didn't even look at her.
she needs to get used to carseat at sometime. I dont think i would go see them though if they are having that negative of attitude towards her. She will pick up on it and be more upset.
Quoting frndlyfn:she needs to get used to carseat at sometime. I dont think i would go see them though if they are having that negative of attitude towards her. She will pick up on it and be more upset.
have you tried putting her in the carseat in the house for a little while, just to help her get used to it a little bit?
Anyway, they obviously aren't willing to make an effort to see her so don't worry about it. Taking her to them isn't gonna solve anything. Spend your time with people who actually want to see her
Quoting MumsTheWord571:
We take short trips around town but I'm not putting her (or myself & DS) through over an hour of bloody murder screaming all at once.
Quoting frndlyfn:she needs to get used to carseat at sometime. I dont think i would go see them though if they are having that negative of attitude towards her. She will pick up on it and be more upset.
Omgosh that's terrible, my heart hurts for you. There is no excuse for that, sheesh we just drove 14 hrs ONE way in one straight thru trip to see one of our daughters and she doesnt even have kids yet. As hurtful as this must be to you, I truly believe THEY are missing out on priceless time with you and little one and that is an even greater loss to them whether they realize it or not. HUGS
No Bueno... Thats so sad they wont even come and see there grandbaby!
Quoting earthangel1967:
Omgosh that's terrible, my heart hurts for you. There is no excuse for that, sheesh we just drove 14 hrs ONE way in one straight thru trip to see one of our daughters and she doesnt even have kids yet. As hurtful as this must be to you, I truly believe THEY are missing out on priceless time with you and little one and that is an even greater loss to them whether they realize it or not. HUGS
I hear ya! My children have grandparents who are about 5 minutes away...actually 2 sets are about 5 minutes away in opposite directions. SO's parents (our children are the ONLY grandchildren) never come over, when they do, it's for 5 minutes because they need to borrow something from SO and they don't pay ANY attention to the kids. On my daughter's birthday (the day after one of her grandfathers died...my stepfather, who was VERY close to my kids), my SO had to talk his parents into coming over for her birthday, I was trying to pull myself together so she wouldn't know anything was up and when they were leaving, my FIL hugged me and PROMISED to be here more for the kids. That was 2 1/2 months ago...he hasn't called to ask about them, hasn't been over to visit them, nothing. My mom (who lost her HUSBAND the DAY before) managed to come to spend time with her granddaughter so Eva would have no idea anything was wrong...my mom signed the birthday card like nothing was wrong...pulled herself together for my daughter and I couldn't be more thankful for that. It devestates me that the one grandfather who cared about my children, spent time with them, showed them love, was a wonderful Papa is gone and now my kids get shafted because the other side can't even follow through with a promise to spend more time with some wonderful children. She started kindergarten, you would think they would ask her about school to have a conversation with her, nothing. I don't even think they know how to hold a conversation with her, which is so sad. When we would visit Nana and Papa, I would hear constant chatter between my daughter and the two of them...breaks my heart and I'm ready to tell my inlaws to fuck off....
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- MumsTheWord571
on Oct. 1, 2011 at 12:41 AM