my own plus my boyfriends son cause he works 6
days a wk .... Not even 1 of these kids listen to me
and i try to hard to be nice and i do everything for
them .... I get NO me time unless u count when im
sleeping as me time which i only get to do for bout 4
hrs a nite if im lucky ..... I also work 30 hrs a wk but
when im workin the kids r in school so its not like i
get a break from bein a mom ..... I am 30 yrs old and
the only thing i ever "knew" in life was that i was
supposed to be a mom!!!!!!! Now im starting to
wonder if i was EVER supposed to be a mom .... I feel
like ive lost all my patience .... i cant keep up with the
house work ..... These kids that i love soooooo dearly
dont listen to a word i say and i really dont kinow
how much more i can take i feel like im on the edge
of a major breakdown and i dont know how to stop
it!!!!!!!!!!!! Will somebody please just help me i feel
sooooooo lost and im scared that if i dont end up
figuring out something soon im gonna end up being
one of those moms that people look at and wonder
"wow is she really a mom why would god let her ave kids" im getting really scared .... I dont wanna b "that" mom =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =(
I really have no advice, for I am in the same boat. My youngest one is so mean to me, that tonight, I actually wanted to just leave. I hate feeling this way. I feel miserable, like I am not allowed to be me anymore, just this robot that does what everyone wants. Even giving them what they want doesn't keep the peace. I'm not hijacking your post, I swear, just reading the responses to maybe get some help too.
Start making a schedule for yourself. Make a daily list of different chores you want to accompolish around the house for each day. It sounds like the kids need more structure and discipline. It's going to be really hard at first. Set a bedtime. Get them started on a routine. What do you do to discipline them? How old are they? They need to learn that YOU are in control, they do not control you. They need to respect you and listen to you. To get them to do this you need to be firm with them. Time out works great with my daughters. They are 6 and 3. If they start to back talk me or don't want to do what they are told then I put them in time out. If they still don't listen and want to whine and give me an attitude then I start taking toys away. Depending on their age, make a chore list. My daughters LOVE to do chores and get little prizes at the end of the week if they had a good week. I go to the dollar store and spend a dollar and get them a new coloring book or stickers. They love it! Definetly start a schedule to get your kids into a routine and over time it will get easier. Like i said, they need to know you are in control. Good Luck mama!
And you need more than 4 hours of sleep a night. you need to make a bedtime asap!! they will rebel at first but over time and after being in a schedule it will get easier. i promise! everytime they get out of the bed put them right back in it. let them scream and yell. get earplugs if need be. ignore it! be very firm!
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- Had3girls
on Feb. 2, 2012 at 9:51 PM