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Susan Sarandon's Pregnancy Advice Won't Work for Everyone - Does it anger you?

Posted by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 11:43 AM
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Susan Sarandon's Pregnancy Advice Won't Work for Everyone

Posted by Nicole Fabian-Weber on February 13, 2012 

susan sarandonSusan Sarandon has the answer for any women having a hard time getting pregnant -- especially those diagnosed with endometriosis: "Eat and drink and f**k and you'll probably get pregnant." Hear that, ladies? It's as simple as that.

The 65-year-old actress, who is mom to 26-year-old Eva Amurri, recently admit that her daughter was conceived on the Spanish Steps in Rome. She said that until she visited this iconic part of Italy, she had great difficulty conceiving due to endometriosis. But then one wild night, boom, it just happened. Her full quote is: "If anyone out there's having trouble getting pregnant, go to Italy. Have a summer and don't worry about it and eat and drink and ... f**k, and you'll probably get pregnant. And that's what happened with Eva on the Spanish Steps."

Sounds romantical. And so European. But, get real, getting pregnant when you have fertility issues isn't always as cut and dried as swilling some pinot noir and getting busy on set of 300-year-old stairs.

Susan was lucky. And it's great that her daughter was conceived the way she was -- it's a hell of a story. But the truth is for many other women suffering from endometriosis, or other fertility issues, it isn't that easy. And making it seem like it is, is, well, a little insensitive if you ask me.

Clearly, Sarandon knows the pains and stresses of futily trying to have a child. She's even said that it was a "devastating" experience, learning as a young woman that she might not get pregnant naturally. So, why be so flippant now? Yes, she was one of the lucky ones -- did she totally forget what it was like before her tryst on the Spanish Steps? How would she have felt if someone said something so nonchalant to her when she was in the throes of sadness, pain, and frustration? Not very good, I bet.

I'm happy that Susan Sarandon is one of the women who triumphed over endometriosis -- it's always uplifting to hear such stories. But I wish she would remember "what it was like when." Or at least be a little more sensitive when talking about it.

Have you had trouble conceiving? Do Susan Sarandon's words anger you or give you hope?

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TC00
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 11:44 AM
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No she wasn't beig serious for goodness sakes. I swear sometimes the stir just pulls crap out of their ass when they have nothing
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Bmat
by Barb on Feb. 13, 2012 at 11:47 AM

No trouble conceiving. I doubt that her words were intended to be taken as serious advice by people having trouble conceiving.

Mom2Just1
by Canteach on Feb. 13, 2012 at 12:12 PM

I had no trouble conceiving.  I am sure it was a joke.

bbmkfo03
by Annemarie on Feb. 13, 2012 at 12:44 PM
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 I did have trouble conceiving but I doubt she was being serious. I'm not offended, I've had so many people give me worse "advice".

mamakenzi
by Kenzi on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:02 PM


Quoting TC00:

No she wasn't beig serious for goodness sakes. I swear sometimes the stir just pulls crap out of their ass when they have nothing


Kenzi

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SouthTxPrincess
by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:04 PM
I didn't have trouble conceiving either of my girls and I'm sure she wasn't serious or what she said was taken out of context. On the flip side I've heard that stress affects your ability to conceive so maybe she was saying that you just need to relax and have sex for fun not because your temp is up and it has to happen now. I hope this isn't true though.
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sreichelt26
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:54 PM
I think the point she's making is the same as what most people are told: stop TRYING. The more you think, stress, try, and obsess about getting pregnant, the harder it is to get pregnant. We tried for a year and a half - even tested to make sure nothing was wrong. It wasn't until getting pregnant was the last thing on my mind that I actually conceived.

She isn't being crass - she's saying to stop stressing about it and just have a good time with your partner.
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jabs54
by Platinum Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 2:55 PM

 No because I really don't think she was serious!

misslady80013
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 3:10 PM
Yep that's what happened for me! I am 33 weeks tomorrow and have been trying since my miscarriage 5.years ago. Once I just accepted that it will happen when the time is right, bam! He is due early April.


Quoting sreichelt26:

I think the point she's making is the same as what most people are told: stop TRYING. The more you think, stress, try, and obsess about getting pregnant, the harder it is to get pregnant. We tried for a year and a half - even tested to make sure nothing was wrong. It wasn't until getting pregnant was the last thing on my mind that I actually conceived.



She isn't being crass - she's saying to stop stressing about it and just have a good time with your partner.

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mommaFruFru
by Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 4:51 PM
i was told very young that i could never get preg cause endo. So i tried for two years, nothing. Gave up, and wow nine months latrr i was preg. I now have three suprise babies. That were never supposed to be able to happen
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