we have ben together for alst 7 yrs and have a 7 month old daughter. today he sent me a box of chocolate covered strawberries. i called him while he was at work to thank him and he sounded upset i asked him whats wrong, he said nothing i just dont feel right. hes been unhappy with his job so i thought that was it. a little while after i text him and asked him again what was wrong, he said hes not happy. that broke my heart im his wife and im supposed to make him happy. i told him im sorry and im sorry if im not making u happy, he said is wasent like that that he loves me and our daughter. but the problem is money and our work schedules. i worked full time before our daughter was born he works full time. we always had sundays to relax and hang out. but now i work weekends while he stays home with our baby and i stay home mon-fri while he works. so basically we dont have much time for . he said its begining to bother him (its been bothering me to for a while). i feel very bad because i dont know what can be done. we dont want her staying in daycare, plus its costly. another thing that is making him upset is our money situation. since im not working full time i cant pay some of the bills i used to and it falls on him... im so sad :(
You could always try doing one day a week in daycare, and use that day for you two.
hes not upset because he has to work and provide for his family, hes upset because he doesnt get to spend time with his family (me and our daughter) we live in a 1 br apt. which we are tight in it as is. we live in nyc nothing is cheap here. and hes well aware that i do alot of work being a sahm
Quoting mom2twingirl797:
Wow, he's upset because he has to work to provide for his family? Being a SAHM is a lot of work ( full time) if the finances are rough, figure out where you can cut costs. Maybe move to a smaller/ cheaper place, clip coupons, grow a garden. I know when my hubby was making well.....not very much we bought all of our food in bulk( still do), shopped second hand/ Goodwill for clothes and necessities ( still do). There are ways to make it work. GL
i just feel horrible leaving her so young with a stranger. we dont have family that lives close that can watch her. he actually wants to spend time with both of us.
Quoting BaileynMe:
How about planned date nights? Hire a sitter and just go do something, even if it's just walk around.
You could always try doing one day a week in daycare, and use that day for you two.
Quoting bxmommy2be:i just feel horrible leaving her so young with a stranger. we dont have family that lives close that can watch her. he actually wants to spend time with both of us.
Quoting BaileynMe:
How about planned date nights? Hire a sitter and just go do something, even if it's just walk around.
You could always try doing one day a week in daycare, and use that day for you two.
Can you change your schedule so you work nights/evenings when he gets home and that way you'll have the weekends together?
yea i have to look into that, im a new mommy so i dont know much kid friendly places in my area. thanks :)
Quoting BaileynMe:
Then how about taking her somewhere kid friendly? We used to take dd to the mall; there's a play area and on weeknights it's not as crowded. Ours has a petshop and she loved looking at the animals, and we would get food/ice cream in the food court. Simple, but fun.
Quoting bxmommy2be:i just feel horrible leaving her so young with a stranger. we dont have family that lives close that can watch her. he actually wants to spend time with both of us.
Quoting BaileynMe:
How about planned date nights? Hire a sitter and just go do something, even if it's just walk around.
You could always try doing one day a week in daycare, and use that day for you two.
no i work in a veterinary hospital and we close at 7pm. i was going to look for a new job working nights that way we can spend the weekends together but he doesnt want me working nights for safety reasons.
Quoting Kiwismommy19:Can you change your schedule so you work nights/evenings when he gets home and that way you'll have the weekends together?
Quoting bxmommy2be:yea i have to look into that, im a new mommy so i dont know much kid friendly places in my area. thanks :)
Quoting BaileynMe:
Then how about taking her somewhere kid friendly? We used to take dd to the mall; there's a play area and on weeknights it's not as crowded. Ours has a petshop and she loved looking at the animals, and we would get food/ice cream in the food court. Simple, but fun.
Quoting bxmommy2be:i just feel horrible leaving her so young with a stranger. we dont have family that lives close that can watch her. he actually wants to spend time with both of us.
Quoting BaileynMe:
How about planned date nights? Hire a sitter and just go do something, even if it's just walk around.
You could always try doing one day a week in daycare, and use that day for you two.
theres one of those around me!!! im setting a date!!! :)
Quoting BaileynMe:
Buffalo Wild Wings is pretty good... It's loud enough that no one notices an exuberant baby, lol. DH and I like to play poker together with their little game things. DD loves all the sports and tv's; she's four now, but DH and I have been regulars since before she was born.
Quoting bxmommy2be:yea i have to look into that, im a new mommy so i dont know much kid friendly places in my area. thanks :)
Quoting BaileynMe:
Then how about taking her somewhere kid friendly? We used to take dd to the mall; there's a play area and on weeknights it's not as crowded. Ours has a petshop and she loved looking at the animals, and we would get food/ice cream in the food court. Simple, but fun.
Quoting bxmommy2be:i just feel horrible leaving her so young with a stranger. we dont have family that lives close that can watch her. he actually wants to spend time with both of us.
Quoting BaileynMe:
How about planned date nights? Hire a sitter and just go do something, even if it's just walk around.
You could always try doing one day a week in daycare, and use that day for you two.
what's the best way to...
- bxmommy2be
on Feb. 14, 2012 at 1:39 PM