Child support/visitation, help!

Doesn't matter if you don't want it, or not. He's the Father of this child and has rights, as much as you do.

He's not a sperm donor, he's this child's father. Whatever happen between you and him has nothing to do with the child. He does have rights and your child has the right to have a father in his/her life.

Unless a man  has harmed a child or has some sort of issue that could possibly put a child in harms way no one should ever deny a man, or his child the right to a relationship.

In the end, it's up to the court to decide. You present your case and he'll present his. The Judge or mediator will make the final decisions.

You don't need a lawyer for child support. Go the The Friend of the Court at your local Courthouse and they'll help you start the process. GL

As long as the child's well being isn't being threatened or harmed, I believe the child should have a relationship with both parents.

As for what you ask, I know here child support and custody/visitation are held in 2 different courts with 2 different judges and court orders. 

In my eyes, you have to earn the right to be called a father, a father takes care of his priorities.  I guess me being beaten to a pulp for 3 years doesn't matter right?

In my own opinion, someone that is abusive, shouldn't have any rights.  Or someone who has been in and out of jail/prison since they were 15 (sons sperm donor).  

If he's just a "sperm donor" then you only wanted his sperm, not his money. If you don't want him to have any rights why should he have any responsibility?

I agree to some extent that a parent should have to earn their right to be called a a mother or a father, but mostly people think that is only true for the father. And while in your case an abusive and absent man is may not want or deserve that title but you also have to acknowledge that you chose to have a baby with him. So sperm donor or not, you allowed yourself to have a child with him and therefore basically "picked" the father of your child (unless you were raped).

okay so this post wasn't for me to be ridiculed, it was for advice, and I can call him a sperm donor because he is a piece of crap, thats why, my opinion plain and simple.  I'm being critized for asking for advice.  Nice.  

Don't get defensive. We are ONLY going by what you posted. You've given us very little to go by. I gave my opinion based on what you wrote and I did include if he was a harm to the child then things would be different.

However, it doesn't matter what he's done, or hasn't your son has the right to  make the decision whether or not he wants a relationship with his father.

My son (20) disowned his father last year because his dad made some choices he could not live with. I had nothing to do with it. I did my part and kept my mouth shut and let him figure it out for himself. If you talk ill about his father and have a bad attitude it could very well do the opposite of what you want, drive him closer to his dad.

This is more about your son's rights and what he wants, then his father, or you. Your son is smart and he'll figure it out for himself. If he chooses to have a relationship you should respect his choice. Its not about how you feel, its about how your son feels.

Quoting mslh84:

In my own opinion, someone that is abusive, shouldn't have any rights.  Or someone who has been in and out of jail/prison since they were 15 (sons sperm donor).  

I didn't have a choice, by the time I found out I was pregnant, I couldn't do anything about it.  Not that I don't love my son, don't get me wrong, he would not have been my first choice by any means.

 Child support and custody don't go hand in hand. If he wants custody or visitation, he'll have to file for it separately.

As far as the lawyer situation, look into a low-income legal aid service in your state. I'm in Kansas and they have Kansas Legal Services - which is basically representation for low income Kansans. If you qualify based on your case and your income, you can get any legal aid you need, even if it is just speaking to a lawyer to get your questions answered.