My 12 year son gets into a fight almost everyday at school

 testosterone levels may be to high. and my brother did that when his allergies were flaired up. I will ask my so tomarrow he was a constant fighter in school pm me to remind me.

 EXACTLY what i was thinking.  he needs to go back to therapy to figure things out....dont let him tell you no.YOU are the parent!!

Quoting Buggy979:

So he won? What I mean by that is he made you feel bad because he didn't like going to a therapist because he felt like
You thought something was wrong with him and you stopped taking him... HE WON! he has learned to bully you ... Get him back into therapy..

I agree 100%

Quoting alexis_06:

 EXACTLY what i was thinking.  he needs to go back to therapy to figure things out....dont let him tell you no.YOU are the parent!!

Quoting Buggy979:

So he won? What I mean by that is he made you feel bad because he didn't like going to a therapist because he felt like
You thought something was wrong with him and you stopped taking him... HE WON! he has learned to bully you ... Get him back into therapy..

 

let me get this straight, he was upset with you so you stopped going to a therapist..............could that be the problem, that you are not being strict enough with him, does he make the decisons in your family or do you?........don't let him guilt you, he is the c hild........you are the parent.......sounds like to me like you are a pushover.

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First about the therapist...that's normal. I was in therapy the majority of my childhood. Around the 11-13 age is when I started hating it. I felt like a freak or something for needing therapy. It was something I knew I'd be made fun of if anyone at school found out. That doesn't mean it wasn't good for me. I'd take him back (no matter what he says) but give him a choice on the time to go and picking the therapist.

When are these fights happening? During downtime/recess? If so you might want to talk to the school about filling that time up with some sort of work until he starts learning to control his anger. Also if they're willing see if he can get a "pass" that allows him to walk off for a few minutes until he's calmed down during times he's feeling particularly angry. Try to set up two meetings with his teachers, the school counselor, and the principal. One meeting with him and one without him. Try to come up with some ideas as to what will help him stop this behavior.

I was a very angry child and got into fights constantly. Those are the things one of my teachers organized to get my butt into gear. It worked believe it or not. I'd definitely advise the therapy or at the very least anger management.

YOU, not your son, are the parent.

Get his butt back in therapy.  If he wants to cry, scream, and yell about it, he can just do it with the therapist and get over it.