1 year old tantrums

Hahaha! My son does the same thing when I don't npick him up or when he doesn't like something or something won't work right. Its annoying. I just let him flip out, its his only way of coping.

Don't pen her when she does that. Just ignore it. Lol
I just read more of your post I skipped through, and you're not gonna fix it. They are gonna run us ragged until they can talk and we can explain things to them lol I feel your pain. Its like,"stoppit, already! Its just a damn sippy cup!"

Ugh!  I'm right there with you... my Little Man is just about to turn 18 months and is STILL having those tantrums... they seem worse and worse by the day.  I try to ignore it as well, or we do a time out.  Screaming at him hasn't worked and I think it just made it worse, so I try not to do that anymore.

Your daughter probably just entered "Terrible Two's" a bit early!  LOL 

One thing that I try to keep in mind, though, is not to use anything as a punishment that is also used for other things... such as putting them in their cribs.  That's a place for restful sleep and should not be used in a negative way.  I'm not sure how you want to take that for the playpen, but it's just something to keep in mind.  Maybe have the playpen in a specific place for time outs and then put it back in it's usual place for play time.  Just a thought.  Maybe an out of the way corner for time outs might help? 

Good luck!

My best advice is to ignore the fit and when they are ready to be nice and play with you then you can talk to them. At 2 and 3 you encorage using big kid words.

 Oh yes my DD did that at the same age and it continues to this day (she'll be 3 in May) so get prepared to deal with this for a while. Tantrums are totally normal at this age you're now dealing with a toddler, who are actually very smart and manipulative little people! I totally ignore her and walk away but still stay close enough to keep an eye on her so she doesn't hurt herself (when she was 1 she liked to bang her head that has since stopped). I have to say her tantrums have gotten shorter as she's gotten older b/c she hates that I ignore and wants my attention. Don't bother with the play pen because even by picking her up you're giving her attention and reinforcing the tantrum. By ignoring her you're showing her that you're not going to put up with the behavior. Good luck, remember to try to stay calm (hard I know!!) and this too shall pass :)

It's worse putting her in the play pen. That's like pushing the issue aside but knowing subconsciously it will get worse. She's just going to keep her anger bottled up inside more. Instead, take her out. Ask her where she wants to go.. If she's having a fit in the house take her out from that environment. Kids calm down on car rides (usually)

All the above sounds right!.....if she is doing this a lot....keep a mental note of when it is happening, "is she tired, is she hungry, is she bored, etc...etc..that can help in reducing some "meltdowns" as I call them. Although 2 out of 3 of my boys are special needs...they still have normal "tantrums" too..lol....but, the best way to deal with it is too not make a fuss about it...for example: If she is grabbing for something like a knick-knack that could get broken and you say NO, don't touch that"...and she drops to the floor and crys and screams and flops around"....ignore it (of course keep an eye out)...but, kind of walk away and don't give in.....more and more you do this and she will know "you mean what you said"...she can't get what she wants all the time. Don't have her in the playpen....bad association will happen with the playpen.   Also, if you try to redirect her with something she is supposed to have that can be helpful once the tantrum is over, you can show her the "knick-nack" and say don't touch...but, give her something she can have so she can be taught something and redirected. Good luck..keep up the good work and consistentcy is the key.