A co-worker of mine (I guess I'll call her "co-worker #1..she's white) gets away with murder. Her work ethic is HORRIBLE. The things that she gets away with are truly mind-blowing. We started at the same time.
One day co-worker #2 (she's been there for over ten years) was complaining to me about how she's fed up with #1. I messed up and said, "I don't understand why she hasn't at least been spoken to....!" (I usually keep my thoughts to myself, I figure, if it doesn't affect how I do my job, then it doesn't matter and I should keep my trap closed. Gossiping doesn't do any good y'know?)
Then I said, "I'd be afraid of getting fired if I pulled half the things she did." *True statement. She pulls some serious bullshit. But I still shouldn't have been sharing my thoughts like that.
Anyway, #2 responds with, "Girl, you ain't white. You wouldn't." (get away with half the stuff she does)
I didn't know how to respond to that. I wasn't going for that kind of conversation. I was taken totally off guard. I was only letting off some steam over the fact that I constantly have to pick up her (#1's) slack.
No one has ever made me feel self conscious of my own skin color like she (#2) did with that comment. I've always looked at everyone as equals. Humans. People. Some good, some bad, whatever. But with that comment....it just....threw me off.
Honestly it doesn't change the way I see the credit union that I work for because I don't feel that they're "like that" in the least. This particular co-workers view of things doesn't alter my respect for my job. I can see that they treat everyone VERY fair. It just makes me stop and think....is this really how it is?? How can this loyal employee of ten years feel this way? It just threw me off. Maybe I'm naive. And the thing is, she keeps saying things like this.
For example, today, she says, "I baby our minorities, our Hispanic members because these white people get all the breaks. No one takes care of our minorities so I baby them." Again, all I could say was, "Yep." I had no words. When I work, I treat everyone the same. Red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo or violet, people are people to me. It just made me really uncomfortable.
I don't really know what I'm trying to get out of posting this. I guess I'm just kind of publicly trying to sort something out in my own mind. As wierd as that sounds.
No ethnic group has a corner on either good, or bad, behavior.
In my opinoin BOTH of your co-workers (#1, and #2) are wrong.
If I was you I would distance myself from both of them.
If #1 is leaving you to clean up her messes, consider talking to your boss.
Quoting Dcccc:
Don't take it personal. It's probably another story of jealousy at the work place.. She's obviously trying to intimidate you. I mean it does depend on whether she's white or not ( you never clarified that) haha maybe she's crazy?
She's from Puerto Rico (#2) I love, love LOVE working with her....aside from this....
I agree. #1 is a slacker. Everyone has to pick up her slack. It's extremely frustrating. The boss loves her. He doesn't understand or see what it's like on a daily basis to handle her ridiculousness. #2 is usually awesome in every aspect, but when this side of her was exposed, it made me want to pull away from her.
Quoting nuts4scouts:
No ethnic group has a corner on either good, or bad, behavior.
In my opinoin BOTH of your co-workers (#1, and #2) are wrong.
If I was you I would distance myself from both of them.
If #1 is leaving you to clean up her messes, consider talking to your boss.
Quoting prdmama1154:
Quoting Dcccc:
Don't take it personal. It's probably another story of jealousy at the work place.. She's obviously trying to intimidate you. I mean it does depend on whether she's white or not ( you never clarified that) haha maybe she's crazy?
She's from Puerto Rico (#2) I love, love LOVE working with her....aside from this....
This is sound advice.
Quoting nuts4scouts:
No ethnic group has a corner on either good, or bad, behavior.
In my opinoin BOTH of your co-workers (#1, and #2) are wrong.
If I was you I would distance myself from both of them.
If #1 is leaving you to clean up her messes, consider talking to your boss.
If I was in your shoes and #1 was my co-worker, I would type up an anonymous letter explaining whatever #1 has been doing at work and have it "secretly" on your bosses desk. This way you stay out of it and the bosses eyes will be open and maybe starts keeping a better "eye" on her. Just a suggestion ;)....also, I would also tell #2 if she is your friend, that they way she speaks about others bothers you and you feel uncomfortable about it...and you don't want to hear it because you don't feel that way. If she is your real friend, she will respect you and keep the comments to herself or refrain from doing it while around you. "My family and friends, some of which have views about different ethnicities, that I don't agree with" and when I am around they know I don't like to hear that garbage..so, they don't behave or talk that way around me"...and when they do, I say I don't like it and I don't want to hear it" they apologize and refrain. I don't associate with anyone who is disrespectful..if they truly are your friend..they will be respectful. Good luck.
Yeah it sounds like both are wrong. And if #2 is giving her minority extra breaks then she also needs to be reported for possible rule breaking. I dont see color either just how a person behaves reflects on them, not their race.
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