Hi, so here is my case. I am stuck in a neverending fight between mom and sister. My sis is 20 yrs old but still lives with mom. She is not going to college but its working a part time job. My sister just wants to hang out ALL the time, common for her age, I think. She has a boyfriend and likes to go out almost 7 days a week. My mother lets her out BUT: demands that my sister texts her saying she is ok after 2ish or so. Also demands to know where is my sis going and with whom. And mom is always saying that she cant sleep while my sis is out so blames my sister for her sleep deprivation.
My sis on the other hand gets upset and says she is too old to be treated this way. She feels she is old enough to go out with whoever she wants, until whatever time she wants. She says mom shouldnt have to stay awake waiting for her.
My mom's phrase is: MY HOUSE, MY DAUGHTER, MY RULES!!
When I was 18, I felt the same way she is feeling but I just packed and left. Got a full time job and paid rent. My sis only has a parttime and after paying her car, she is left with lil money left, not enough to cover any rent.
I think my mom is exxagerating with her. But I think its also her house. I think if sis feels that is being babied too much, then she should get a full time job and live on her own. Agree?
does anyone here have an over-18 yrs old son or daughter? If so, how do you manage her/his outings?