There is so much wrong with this story, but what's done is done. I will spare your feelings. Let your DH raise the baby if he wants to. I would cut all contact with the other guy. If and when he was ready to step up then I would let him. You can't make a man "man up". It is something he has to want for himself. Please do not give that guy any money. He is using you.
Are you staying with your husband? Why do you want baby's father there so badly? Is your husband willing to step up for this child? What are your intentions with this other guy?
It sounds like you're really attached to the baby's father, and that's only going to cause problems for you if you are. You can't make someone want to own up to their responsibilities, so there's probably nothing you can do to make him want to be a father to his daughter. Maybe you could take him to court for child support but I'm not even sure if that would work since you're married to someone else. Besides, having him around is only going to complicate things with your husband.
Awww...sweety! That IS stressful! But, I believe you already know in your heart what you need to do for your daughter. Think about it for a moment...Do you really want this man that cannot even take care of himself, taking care of your beautiful little wonder? Sounds to me like the guy is a dead beat already and proves it, and unfortunately you cannot change someone. They have to change themselves. If your DH is willing to be there for a baby that is not his, seems he is a much better man than the sperm donor. Joint custody in SOME states could mean neither parent pays child support. If he is not concerned at all, do not stress. You already have a family and everything will come together. Have him sign over his parental rights, and your DH can become her dad through legal means. Honestly, are you over this dead beat guy as well? Sometimes we look to things we want, instead of what would be best for our children. Your baby deserves a good dad. Give her one. You gave the sperm donor a chance, you don't even need to do that. If he was willing to be a part, he would prove it. And DO NOT let him sweet talk you into some situation again you cannot get yourself out of and regret it. :) GL!
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- Shiquita_Woods
on Apr. 6, 2012 at 8:09 AM