I need advise

I say you drop DH!!!  First of all it takes 2 to make a baby! #2 you are working taking care of that baby! The baby the two of you made! Weather your actually going to a job or not he still is resposible for it supporting it! #3 At what age was he going to retire?? 54? LOL! Retirement and social security doesn't kick in until 60.

I'm sorry but I get this really bad feeling your in a very bad relationship, controling  (maybe abusive?). If that is the case you need to leave him ASAP.

Quoting navewife:

I had a friend in a similar situation. She went to a womans shelter for a while till she got on her feet. They had strict rules and curfews, but they helped her to get out on her own.maybe you should look into seeing what they offer and if they can help you.

 I agree with PP's. Find a shelter like the others said, they have excellent resources to good jobs and daycares. It may suck for a while but it can't be worse than what you're going through now. Good luck :)

i totally agree! Get out of this relationship! You deserve better than this. Your a full time mom which is so much more work than any other job i've ever heard of!

Quoting momofne:

I say you drop DH!!!  First of all it takes 2 to make a baby! #2 you are working taking care of that baby! The baby the two of you made! Weather your actually going to a job or not he still is resposible for it supporting it! #3 At what age was he going to retire?? 54? LOL! Retirement and social security doesn't kick in until 60.

I'm sorry but I get this really bad feeling your in a very bad relationship, controling  (maybe abusive?). If that is the case you need to leave him ASAP.

 I do not agree with some of these mom's post. I do not think leaving your husband is the way to go . Yes, he needs to step up and be a man and take responsibility. And yes it takes two to make a child so therefore he is just as much responsible as you are. I would seek some help somewhere and get you and your husband in and talk to someone. Maybe they can get to the bottom of why your husband feels this way. I take it he has no other kids and never has been married before? If so he needs to get some help on what it means to raise a family. Also communication is the key. I would sit down with him and say what do you want me to do. If I find a job then we have to get daycare. I can not pay for daycare on a salary that I may make. So therefore it still falls back on you. So ask him what he wants of you?

Don't leave him though. That would just make things worse.