My fifteen month old sleeps with me, i am trying to get him to sleep in his own bed now. He sleeps in his own bed when i lay him down when he is already asleep but wakes up an hour to two hours later, what i can i do to get him to fall asleep and stay asleep in his own bed and feel safe doing so? Because i think tht is half the problem is he doesnt feel safe because he has always slept with me.
Good luck mama. You can do this and you will both sleep better in the long run.
My son always slept on his own, but I would walk him back to bed everytime he gets up. No playing time or cuddle time just straight back to bed. He will eventually get used to the fact that its gonna happen that way and stay in bed.
he doesnt really have a comfort item, and i have been putting him to sleep in my bed and then putting him in his bed, and it works for a couple hours then he wakes up an i start it all over again. its like an all night process. thanks for all the ideas i will definately try them out.
My now 15 year old co-slept with me until she was 2 years old. Moving her into her own bed room took a while. I would put her to bed at the same time every night, and lie down with her. I'd read her a story, turn out the lights, and lay with her till she fell asleep. Sometimes it took longer than others...sometimes my DH would wake me up to come to my bed, sometimes I'd wake up at 2am and go to my bed. Sometimes she'd wake up and crawl in bed with us, and depending on what time it was, and how much longer I had to sleep before I had to get up, I'd either walk her back to her own bed and lay back down with her, or let her stay with us. Gradually, she started sleeping through the whole night...and the nights where she got in bed with us were fewer and fewer. We also used bribery--you sleep in your own bed all week, and Friday/ Saturday night (depending on what night Daddy played poker) you can sleep with us.
Every once in a while she'd still crawl in bed with us..but by the time she was four, she was staying in her bed regularly. I know two years seems like a long time...but considering she'd been 'sleeping' with me since she was the size of a raisin, I really didn't care. To me, cosleeping was a blessing. There was nothing nicer than waking up or falling asleep with her little hand patting my face...
She's 15 now, and still considers sleeping with me a treat. We call them 'slumber parties'...and knowing that those nights are going to be gone forever in just a few years make them all that much more precious.
I started moving my dd into her own bed at 14 months as well. Basically I started rocking/nursing her to sleep in her room and putting her in the crib. If/when she woke and cried I would go in, and if I could settle her without picking her back up I would try that, get her back to sleep and go back to bed, but if she was wide awake or needed me, id take her back to bed with me. It took about 4 months before she was sleeping all night long, but it was worth it to not make it traumatic on either of us.
How about starting with just nap time in his bed? Then work up to night time too. He doesn't have a connection to any one stuffed animal, lovey, book or blanket? Maybe get him one then and say it's there to keep him company and to snuggle with. Each time he gets up soothe & comfort him without picking him up then tell him you're leaving and you love him. It will take time and lots of patience. Good luck
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- monkeymommy2010
on Apr. 24, 2012 at 11:45 PM