My friend beats her daughter- update

Im not sure if beating is the right word. She disciplines by hitting and yanking. Her daughter who is 5, is a pretty average sweet girl. Curious, adventurous, and scared to death of her parents. I have seen the girl get beat from her father too, even at a young age. What makes things worse is they are expecting again. I fear for the kids. My freind was is always screaming at he daughter if she does anything wrong. I had a b day party for my daughter this wknd and they came, and I witnessed It once again. The reason the mom flips on her kid is because something will happen and the kid lashes out and says something really nasty to the mommy. She taunts her, then my freind runs after her, grabs her and hits her. She has expressed that she is sick of her and thatn she wants to kill her. I don't think that's literal. Hope it's not. The little girl says leave me alone, get away from me, and hits back. She doesn't listen to simple instructions and is not allowed to make decisions. She doesn't eat well, I think cuz she is probably so stressed out all the time she has no appetite. I don't know if I should break it down and say something to her. I don't want to loose her as a freind, but she really made me uncomfortable w how she behaved at my party w her daughter. What to do?

I do not parent this way, and my daughter, 6, is an absolute joy.


I wanted to post an update of what happened here. Ok 1 st off there was another mommy and daughter at my party and they felt a little under the weather so there was some coughing. It was a slumber party at a hotel, so everyone stayed over. I slept in the room w the sick mommy and her daughter. Wakin feeling fine. The beater slept in the other room w her daughter. She woke to tell me she didn't sleep well as she is pg, it was loud cuz there is a club at the hotel so she had to run the ac all nite to mask the sound.

I called her this am to talk w her, about her behavior and how it was inappropriate and made me feel uncomfortable. And to address her parenting. She didnt answer. So I text her, this is what went down.

Me: I need to talk to you, call me back when you have a free minute.
J: don't have time to talk... I am taking care of my daughter who is home sick today as well as myself (she is a sahm) thanks to your disrespectful freind who came to the party sick and now Hoss ( her husband) is pissed off because us getting sick.
Me: she's disrespectful? How about hoe you treat your daughter? You wonder why she acts up, I hope you know you are scarring her for life the way you beat her. You don't even give her a chance to be a child. In front of my guests no less, and the model I hired to entertain. Unbelievable. Andif you think it's ok, it's not. I'm this close to calling CPS on you. You need to take some parenting classes before this new baby comes on the scene. Maybe read a book, cuz what u r doing is not working. I don't care about the pictures, thanks for helping clean up, I appreciate that. And I like being friends with you for so long, but I am sorry to say that I think that's over unless you change. Take a look at how you act with her, before it's too late.

And her comes the lovely replies from her husband.

Him: 1st off u cause my wife to loose this baby from ur stress god have mercy on u. Secondly you ever fucking call my wife a bad parent u fucking stripper whore. Look at ur self u can't keep a man around let alone take care of ur kid ( which is beyond ridiculous. I am a dancer but since when is that a crime... I have a loving bf of more than a year, my daughter is wondful, homeschooled, piano lessons, ballet, and swim) karma is a bitch you skinny ugly drugged out fuck. Enjoy having dfys in ur life too after I am done on the phone. J bent over backwards for u and u tray her like shit. Ur the bad parent, no stability, a stripper, a nobody. Don't ever fucking contact my family ever again or I will contact her uncle that is a detective have u arrested for harassment.
Me: go ahead. You think you scare me? You seem to forget ur wife was a stripper too. I have no shame. At least I don't beat my child.
Him: that's because you are stupid. You won't have your child after Ivan do e with you . B
Me: oh ok.... Wow, what insults? I'm a stripper and I'm stupid. Ouch. Learn how to type on your phone.
Him: this is your last warning for harassing me or my family. Don't contact us again. Nj police already contacted and her uncle the detective will be filing harassment papers against you.


Needless to say, she has deleted me off Facebook. Rich... Really rich.