Some ladies have asked if I'm willing to have a child with him why am I not willing to marry him. I want to marry him But it would be nice not to be pregnant during the wedding. Also since I'm not paying for it my parents are we should be able to take the time to plan the wedding and not make more stress to an already stressful pregnancy.
Ah. Got it. Sorry you're dealing with that. :(
Sounds like this is something you and your BF really need to talk about - and not over a quick phone call. ;) I really hope you find peace in whatever decision you make.
Quoting Bookoholic:
I know Ive thought about that too. But I have PCOS and my mom took 5 years to get pregnant. I dont want to wait 5 yrs to get married but I figure two years from now. I'm also looking at a hystroectomy between 28 and 30.
Quoting 081499:Seems to me the simple solution would be to marry him (since you want to and love him), get settled in with your new life with him, and then have a baby together. I totally agree - pregnancy AND a wedding is too much! :) Just a thought, though...
Quoting Bookoholic:
I want to marry him but I dont want to marry him based on a pregnancy. Pregnancy's are already stressful for me why add a wedding.
Quoting 081499:Not judging here - but why do you want to have a child with him, but not marry him?
DH and I werent married when we had DS! I got pregnant 3 months into the relationship. Believe me we heard the "will you get married" question from everyone. We were unmarried and happy for 5 years. We discussed marriage last year and made it official this past March :)
Quoting 081499:Ah. Got it. Sorry you're dealing with that. :(
Sounds like this is something you and your BF really need to talk about - and not over a quick phone call. ;) I really hope you find peace in whatever decision you make.
Quoting Bookoholic:
I know Ive thought about that too. But I have PCOS and my mom took 5 years to get pregnant. I dont want to wait 5 yrs to get married but I figure two years from now. I'm also looking at a hystroectomy between 28 and 30.
Quoting 081499:Seems to me the simple solution would be to marry him (since you want to and love him), get settled in with your new life with him, and then have a baby together. I totally agree - pregnancy AND a wedding is too much! :) Just a thought, though...
Quoting Bookoholic:
I want to marry him but I dont want to marry him based on a pregnancy. Pregnancy's are already stressful for me why add a wedding.
Quoting 081499:Not judging here - but why do you want to have a child with him, but not marry him?
Quoting Owl_Feather:DH and I werent married when we had DS! I got pregnant 3 months into the relationship. Believe me we heard the "will you get married" question from everyone. We were unmarried and happy for 5 years. We discussed marriage last year and made it official this past March :)
Quoting MissTacoBell:
I would be wary of the whole situation. Youre just asking to be a sugar momma.
Quoting Bookoholic:
Ive known him 6 years met him at missionary boot camp, I know hes not lazy we both want to go back to leading missionary trips so its not a matter of if well get married but more when
Quoting MissTacoBell:
I would be wary of the whole situation. Youre just asking to be a sugar momma.
Quoting hopealways4019:
If your a Christian, you won't have a child out of wedlock.
Too young for "the talk"????
- Bookoholic
on May. 1, 2012 at 2:18 PM