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Why the uproar from some women

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When the man works and the woman doesn't it is deemed okay.  When the woman works and the man doesn't it is not okay. The men & women who don't work are SAH parents. What is the difference? Some women think it is the man's "job" to work. I don't think it should matter who works and who doesn't.

by on May. 4, 2012 at 8:44 PM
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 12:59 PM

My husband and I believe in "traditional" gender roles. Having him be a sahd would not work for us. But I dont give two shits about what others feel works for their relationship

by on May. 5, 2012 at 6:16 PM
I believe in traditional gender rols
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 6:17 PM

it's the binary gender system in America. it's enraging.

by on May. 5, 2012 at 6:45 PM

i have no problem with that setup, but in my experienced it back fired. my exhusband stayed with the kids cause he cldn't find wrk for about a 1 1/2 yrs and until this day he tells me i was all about wrk and not my kids. it hurt me before but now i realized he was jealous cause i got 2 promotions and and quite a few raises in that time.

by on May. 5, 2012 at 7:43 PM

DH would LOVE to be a SAHD, and I would too sometimes. But I can't find a job that makes the same or more than what he does, so for now, until I finish school, he will work and I will stay home/go to school. We're talking about him taking a year off and finishing school/staying home once I find a job in my field. 

by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:48 PM
I don't care who earns the paycheck. But what I've told DH is if you stay home keeping House cooking meal planning etc falls on his shoulders since that's what I do.
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 10:07 PM

i was always taught that the man is who is responsible for providing for the home. i also believe that if one of you are choosing to be a stay at home parent the one who makes more should work.

by on May. 5, 2012 at 10:16 PM
I agree

Quoting lioness3e:

To each their own. I don't judge others for how they believe. This is a personal issue between a man and woman. Its none of my concern. If their situation works for them, great. I just go on minding my own business.

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by Bronze Member on May. 5, 2012 at 10:20 PM
Out of my husband's four closest friends he is the only one who is not a stay at home dad. I really don't think it us as unusual as people think.
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 10:20 PM

i think that it's a mans job to work, and the woman to stay at home, and tend to the house and children. which means, cooking, cleaning, laundry, errands and etc.

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