I nor his dad have any idea how to get him under control. We have taken privileges away sat him in timeout which he will refuse and battle for hours. We have tried talking to him tried spanking. We do reward charts for good behavior. We put him in therapy last August which helped the anxiety but not this yet. Oh and we spend an hour or two with each one individually. Anyone have any ideas how to help this. This used to only happen every once in awhile but in the last two weeks it has become a constant thing. He used to be our best behaved aside from our 11yr old. I don't know what has gotten into him.
Here is an example of what happened at school the last two weeks :
A has refused to follow directions. He has ran away. Hid under the computer table. Asked him to come to me (teacher) and he refused. He also went to the computer and was pulling on the headphones and microphone pulling on it to tear it apart. I asked him to stop and he ran off.
Keep in mind this isn't a regular thing till just two or three weeks ago. He doesn't appear to have adhd but maybe I'm wrong or am missing something. Anyone have any ideas? TIA
Hmm If it has been a sudden change I would wonder if something happened at school and he isnt telling someone. Acting out seems to be his way to express frustration. Is there any way the school nurse or psychologist can talk with him when he acts up? Is he passing any tests that his teacher gives?
Quoting frndlyfn:Hmm If it has been a sudden change I would wonder if something happened at school and he isnt telling someone. Acting out seems to be his way to express frustration. Is there any way the school nurse or psychologist can talk with him when he acts up? Is he passing any tests that his teacher gives?
Quoting bellawomen:
You need to get him evaluated by a behavioral therapist to rule out anything and they can help you set up some discipline that will help.
I have the extremely energetic dd. She started kinder at age 5 and turned 6 in march. She is very book smart but lacking in alot of fine motor,gross motor and communication. Now with a month and half left she is getting the extra help she needs. The specialists who evaluated her just said she is a high energy child. We are working on keeping her still to complete longer projects for school and at home.
I would talk to the therapist to see what they think. Do choose one discipline method and just stay with that one instead of trying every method out there. For dd we give one warning and she loses a privelege.
Quoting lfrrll5:
He spoke to the principal. But sees his therapist next week. The tests were done today. He doesn't take many just a few but normally does well. He is doing single digit addition and subtraction and reads kindergarten books. So he appears fine grade level wise his behavior is just a mess
Quoting frndlyfn:Hmm If it has been a sudden change I would wonder if something happened at school and he isnt telling someone. Acting out seems to be his way to express frustration. Is there any way the school nurse or psychologist can talk with him when he acts up? Is he passing any tests that his teacher gives?
It sounds like you've proven sufficiently to yourself that controlling another human being, by means of punishment, threats, bribes, nagging, criticizing, complaining or blaming, is actually impossible.
I would recommend reading Choice Theory, by William Glasser for a thorough and well-researched description of why none of that works and what 'works' very well.
Quoting LindaClement:It sounds like you've proven sufficiently to yourself that controlling another human being, by means of punishment, threats, bribes, nagging, criticizing, complaining or blaming, is actually impossible.
I would recommend reading Choice Theory, by William Glasser for a thorough and well-researched description of why none of that works and what 'works' very well.
Question about an 11 year old
- lfrrll5
on May. 9, 2012 at 12:37 AM