Sorry this is so long! I really could use some advice though.
I thought my MIL and I had a fairly decent relationship but she is so self centered it is ridiculous and really starting to affect me/my marriage/my relationship with my mother. She has gone off before saying we give my mother more time with DS and DH was quick to tell her that my mother puts in more effort to see him. We do not have to take him to her or ask her to see him, she does it on her own because she wants to. That gave her reason to not like my mom I guess because since then anything to do with my mom has been seen as a personal attack against MIL.
So, yesterday I posted on facebook about our move. I was excited to be getting out of this apartment and made a long post about the plans we have for the weekend, it basically said "moving boxes, then furniture on Saturday, cleaning the apartment Sunday morning and then mothers day dinner that night". We had NO plans set yet and I only added the dinner part because I assumed that since I was a mother DH would take me out. I did not want my friends to think DH was going to ignore me on my second mothers day lol. That post was made at about 3pm, at 9pm (after work) DH calls MIL to see if she wants to go out with us on Sunday and before he can even ask she blows up! She started crying and talking about how we always exclude her and that she can't believe I made plans for our family and my mother and did not invite her. WTF?!? Not only where there no actual plans but had there been they would not have included my mom since she works all day Sunday and refuses any gesture at holidays beyond a card.
I am really hurt over this. I feel like she not only thinks I don't deserve to celebrate mothers day at all let alone with my family (DH, DS and I only) if that is what I wanted to do and I also don't have the right to celebrate mothers day with my own mother if that was what I wanted. No where in the post did I mention DH or DS, for all she knows I had plans to go out with my mother alone and let them fend for themselves.
Anyways, she hung up and DH and wont take his calls. She thinks I am lying and that I really did make plans and purposely conspired with my mom to hurt her feelings.