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What should I ask?

Posted by on Jun. 9, 2012 at 9:05 PM
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My middle daughter is 7 and has PPD. It's a type of Autism which basically means she doesn't follow the typical symptoms of autism but does have a lot of the typical behaviors problems that autistic kids have. So the state has approved her for A Personal Assistance to help us in the home. Right now just 8hrs a wk but it might go up soon. I have decided that it would be best if I interview my own staff and hire them myself instead of going through a company because I know my kid the best and Ive had an agency hiring the staff and shes pretty flakey she misses a lot of days and always changes her schedule. I want to dictate the schedule myself and hire someone who will won't keep asking for changes. I have a few ideas about what I want to ask during an interview but I think a few more would be good. At least 10. I know I'm only talking a few hrs right now but they will be paid $12 an he which is pretty dang good around here and it could be more hrs. I just have to wait and see what gets approved!
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mamaBerg85
by Member on Jun. 9, 2012 at 10:45 PM
Bump! I am very nervous that if we leave someone alone with her and she is too much for them they will wall out on her. How would I ask that with out being offensive!
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elzmnsf
by Bronze Member on Jun. 9, 2012 at 10:45 PM
What are the tasks the pa is supposed to do? I might have ideas if I better understood their purpose in the home. As for now, I would get experience and education, references, their philosophy on how best to help a child like yours ( to make sure their thinking is in line with how you parent)...
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mamaBerg85
by Member on Jun. 9, 2012 at 11:11 PM
Helping her get dressed for school walk her to the bus in the am. In the evening help her with a light chore, shower (yes I will only be hiring female staff), homework and getting to bed. Then on weekends just hasn't with her maybe attend a family event or 2 but no holidays. At all times maintaining behavior plan, documenting behaviors, and helping me come up with new ideas. I don't want someone running my home but if something isn't working id like staff to tell me any ideas that have worked in the past. So yes I am looking for someone with experience.
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mamaBerg85
by Member on Jun. 10, 2012 at 12:57 PM
Bump
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Jerichos_Mommy
by Bronze Member on Jun. 10, 2012 at 8:02 PM

good luck

Cara5
by on Jun. 10, 2012 at 8:15 PM

My daughter has a one-to-one specialist.  She is here about 36 hours a week and does double duty as Kodys primary teacher as well.   Its a long story, but I think the idea is along the same lines as what your looking at. 


I would ask for references, and follow up on them.  

"What is the most challenging situation a kid in your care has put you through?  How did you handle it?" 

"What are some things you are really good at, or would be really good at helping my daughter with?" 

"What, in your opinion, are some situations that warrant calling in for work?"  "how often do these situations come up for you?" 


I would also spell every little thing out on paper.  Tell the potential worker that you understand that this is going into lots of detail, but that its better to be clear from the front end.  Ask her to read the entire list of expectations, rules etc.. and ask her if she has any problems with any of it. 

When we hired Abbie I had a 4 page bullet list of "Things to be clear about up front."  I covered everything from what snack food was allowed, to weather or not she was allowed to bring her own food in and where to store it, the fact that my bathroom was off limits to her and kids. I outlined the difference between being late, being a no-show and calling in.  I also put in there that three no shows (which included being more than half an hour late with no phone call) was an automatic firing. 

Abbie has been with us since Kody was 4, and she will be 10 in august!  We are so far past little nit picky contracts with her, but it was a great place to start.  Ill see if I can drum up that document if your interested. 

pegleg63
by on Jun. 10, 2012 at 8:16 PM


Quoting mamaBerg85:

Bump! I am very nervous that if we leave someone alone with her and she is too much for them they will wall out on her. How would I ask that with out being offensive!

You might want to give some hypothetical situations to the person you are interviewing. Create a senario where your daughter might be difficult to manage, ask the assistant what they would do or how they would handle themselves and your daughter. Watch to see how sincere they are in their answers, hopefully they will answer truthfully and not just tell you what you want to hear.

Sweet_Carol_126
by Bronze Member on Jun. 11, 2012 at 1:59 AM

You can try to hire your own; however, it may be up to the organization that is paying for her assisant.  Usually the school does this and hires the people you use and they pay for it.  If you have a say so, do ask to make sure they are compatible to your personality and to your daughters.  Ask them their  qualifications and any training they have.  See what they know about autism.  See if she is properly trained in protecting your child/ in how to control your child in case she is antsy.  Good luck to you.

 

mamaBerg85
by Member on Jun. 11, 2012 at 6:30 PM
The company I am going through I will be hiring them based on my say so. Once I do the interview and choose the staff I will set down fill out paperwork for the company to file the background check. I mean the company wont hire just because I say it would still depend on a background check but only the staff I like will get checked out!
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mamaBerg85
by Member on Jun. 11, 2012 at 6:32 PM
Thank you that would help.


Quoting Cara5:

My daughter has a one-to-one specialist.  She is here about 36 hours a week and does double duty as Kodys primary teacher as well.   Its a long story, but I think the idea is along the same lines as what your looking at. 


I would ask for references, and follow up on them.  

"What is the most challenging situation a kid in your care has put you through?  How did you handle it?" 

"What are some things you are really good at, or would be really good at helping my daughter with?" 

"What, in your opinion, are some situations that warrant calling in for work?"  "how often do these situations come up for you?" 


I would also spell every little thing out on paper.  Tell the potential worker that you understand that this is going into lots of detail, but that its better to be clear from the front end.  Ask her to read the entire list of expectations, rules etc.. and ask her if she has any problems with any of it. 

When we hired Abbie I had a 4 page bullet list of "Things to be clear about up front."  I covered everything from what snack food was allowed, to weather or not she was allowed to bring her own food in and where to store it, the fact that my bathroom was off limits to her and kids. I outlined the difference between being late, being a no-show and calling in.  I also put in there that three no shows (which included being more than half an hour late with no phone call) was an automatic firing. 

Abbie has been with us since Kody was 4, and she will be 10 in august!  We are so far past little nit picky contracts with her, but it was a great place to start.  Ill see if I can drum up that document if your interested. 


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