also.. my 5 yr old said to my oldest the other day " Julian is your a bad boy you get to go fishing like me" well that was said because (im not with there father) i asked there dad if he can take my 5 yr old the other night to talk to him because his attitude has gotten so bad and talk to him. it turned into a fishing trip and spoiling him with candy. I cant control what happens at his fathers but i dont know what to do because it seems like i will try hard and it will all fail. and now im wondering if thats why there acting out because they think it equals good attention. How can i go about talking to there dad about it. he always says to me he will work on stuff with me BUT he also says they dont behave badly at his house.. well hello! its because there spoiled rotten there.. HELP please.