I have 3 kids. Two from a previous relationship and the baby with my SO. His dad and Step mom are NEVER around. They NEVER have time for us and only contact him to cause trouble or make him feel guilty about something.
His step mom told me one day after I bumped into her that we could call them to take care of the baby if we ever had anything to do with the older 2. His dad told him the same thing a couple of weeks later. BUT the thing is we have seen them maybe a handful of times since she's been born. The baby doesn't like them at all!!! She cries EVERY SINGLE time we have seen them.
We both agree that if they really wanted to keep her they would make effort to see her more so she could get "used" to them. We've tried to get together with them at their house , invited them to school functions for the older 2, invited them for bbqs... everything and it's always a last minute excuse..
SO.. the question is are we wrong for not "asking" them to baby sit as they have requested?