You do not have to spank (I did some) but you do need to discipline your kids and not let them run over you because of what you felt as a kid. If you don't discipline your kids in some way you would do them a disservice.
Quoting BaileynMe:
It's not exactly wrong for you to feel that way, but it's probably a waste of your time. Wishing that people felt differently usually is. Parent the way you see fit and try to accept that you're probably not going to get the response you want from your mom.
Quoting atlmom2:You do not have to spank (I did some) but you do need to discipline your kids and not let them run over you because of what you felt as a kid. If you don't discipline your kids in some way you would do them a disservice.
Quoting victoriaherring:
I can sorta see both sides. It's horrible what happened to you, and you have a right not to spank your children.. I kinda agree with your mom and that you shouldn't play the victim. I mean technically you were the victim, but don't use it as an excuse for the rest of your life. Don't let it define you. Let the wonderful things in your life and your accomplishments speak for you.
You should be able to expect sympathy and understanding from you mother but it doesn't seem that she is equipped to do so ( maybe emotionally), I would discipline your children how you see fit and what works for you and them. I'm sorry to say this but your mother didn't become a mom to you until you were 11, so the only opinion that matters here is yours and your partner if you have one. I'm sorry to hear that you were physically abused like that as a child and I fully understand not wanting to put your children thru something like that.
Too young for "the talk"????
- elle3615
on Jun. 11, 2012 at 1:38 PM