My name is Jessica and I'm new to this group! What a way to introduce myself, lol I have a bit of a situation and I'm hoping someone can give me some advice.
A few days ago I went to log in to my facebook on and my husband's facebook popped up. I know I was wrong, I should have just closed it out but as they say curiousity kills the cat. I found a conversation between my husband and this girl that he was going to see back before him and I got together that lives in Australia. Most of the conversation was regular chit chat, until it got to the part where he started telling her that I don't "put out" and that he told me the clock is ticking and he is going to get it one way or another with or without me. I should mention that during this conversation he also tells her, well if you were with me you wouldn't not put out? On top of all of this he then proceeds to tell her that he didn't want to grow old alone so he just "settled". Of course she kept telling him that he didn't settle that he has a beautiful little boy so on and so forth but of course that is the one part he wouldn't respond to. I feel like I have this huge boulder in my stomach. I keep hearing "I settled" in my head over and over again.
I confronted him on all of this and as I suspected it turned into where it was my fault because I make him feel like I don't love him. I really am at a loss here. I do love him, I don't want to rip apart the family but at the same time I don't think I can get past this. I feel like he mentally cheated on me and saying that he settled makes me feel so low as a person. What would you do if you were in my situation? Any advice is appreciated :) Thanks ladies