I'm new but need advice plz.

Just write him and tell him that you wish the two of them would meet and he would act like her father.  Or you could just file for child support and visitation.

I can't file for child support and that stuff because he REFUSES to take a DNA test because he knows he's her father... but before I found out I was pregnant and me and him at seperated.. I had got back with my ex from before him and that is the guy that was with me through it all and is on the BC. He has left us now too as well.. But I am working on getting the money to getting that fixed.. I am just scared if I write her Father he will reject her again.. I don't want her to grow up thinking she isn't good enough for him because he fathers all his other children and not her... She looks just like him and it is sad.  ((Thank you for the advice it is very appreciated))

Quoting ArisMamii:

I can't file for child support and that stuff because he REFUSES to take a DNA test because he knows he's her father... but before I found out I was pregnant and me and him at seperated.. I had got back with my ex from before him and that is the guy that was with me through it all and is on the BC. He has left us now too as well.. But I am working on getting the money to getting that fixed.. I am just scared if I write her Father he will reject her again.. I don't want her to grow up thinking she isn't good enough for him because he fathers all his other children and not her... She looks just like him and it is sad.  ((Thank you for the advice it is very appreciated))

Well given all of that info there may not be much you can do.  I'm sorry.

I would write to him and tell him how you feel. Your daughter has half brothers and sisters, she should know who they are. Good luck!

Thank you.. And yes I believe she would want to know them as well as they would want to know her.. I think that is only fair..  And okay.. I think Ive decided to write him..I'm just horrible at writing stuff obviously and horrible with words.. so this is going to be hard to figure out how I want to word this.. 

Okay i have a ? does he even know he has a daughter by you at all? If he does then why has he not been in her life or anything. If not then i would definatly try to contact him and see if he wants to have some kind of relationship with her..... It is well worth a try plus you can at least say u did try!

Go for it! What do u have to lose at this point?!

I wouldnt mind hearin the story of why yall arnt together so that way it will be ezer to knpw how to start the letter.. And you can get it court ordered for him to take a dna test.. Atleast you can in VA

 Maybe try this:

I'm not writing about us.  I'm writing about our daughter.  I don't want her to think it's my fault she doesn't know you and has never met you.  So, I wanted to reach out to see if there is any way you'd be willing to at least meet her.  I think ___. (fill in the blank with something about the two of them, like  you two would get along well/famously or whatever you think would be appropriate to the situation)

Men are very simple (I don't mean stupid; I just mean there aren't a lot of moving parts); {btw, we're the complicated ones, so things are MUCH easier for us to handle if they're complicated or if they aren't, if we complicate them up a bit before we dive in}.  Anyway, just be short, simple and to-the-point.

As far as paternity goes, the boyfriend whose name you put on BC needs to be excluded as the biological father first. Then when you petition for child support, verification or acknowledgement of paternity will be ordered by the court. If he refuses to appear for the DNA test, he will be in violation of a court order. The judge eventually has the discretion to have him taken into custody if subsequent attempts to schedule the DNA swab are not happening-  then he probably will be given an escort to the lab.